Did I do the right thing? (kinda long)*update*

[busybee76]

Ok, where do I start?.....my son goes to a middle school outside of our area so I provide his transportation to and from school. one of the boys in our neighborhood also goes there, his Mom works full time and we "ride share"...she does Mondays since she's off, I do Tues-Thurs (morning & afternoon) and Friday mornings, she picks up on Fridays IF she's off work in time.....this kid is VERY obnoxious, has NO manners and irritates my son like crazy...they really aren't "friends" anymore.

Well, this past weekend my son was talking to an old friend and they were talking about oh remember this person, etc...well my son brought up something that this other kid had said....it was about how to make this certain girl cry, asking if he wanted to know how, my son said NO, that's mean but he said it anyways....HA HA HA YOUR MOM DIED! (which she did, about 2 years ago of cervical cancer).....This really bothered me, so that day I saw this boys Mom & told her what he had said. She seemed bothered by it and said she'd talk to him.

Well, Monday Morning she picks up my son to go to school....then she calls me after she drops the boys off telling me my son might call me from school because he was VERY upset when she dropped him off. Apparently they decided to ask him about when her child supposedly said that about that girl.....they grilled him ALL the way to school and her child denied everything.

I kept thinking about her phone call all day and it just didn't sit well with me. So I was going to call her but sent her a text instead telling her I was going to pick up my son from school today....she said, ok, are you mad about this morning? I said Actually, yes I am...that could have been handled alot differently.  She then tells me she didn't mean to piss me off, am I still taking her kid to school?  I finally tell her NO, you should find another ride for him. She doesn't care that she upset me or my son, she only cares about her kid getting to school......it's been back and forth the past 2 days about wether or not I'm taking her kid, what else is she supposed to do, how long should she find him another ride, etc......and I finally told her, I wouldn't mind helping her but at this point, my child is NOT going to ride with her, he's upset by how he was treated and just isn't comfortable with riding with her again.....SO, she asks again....but you still won't take Ty to school?????

I am DONE! I can't stand this kid and I am tired of telling her over and over again that I am mad and I'm NOT taking her kid to school anymore! SHE has yet to apologize to my Son or me......

So am I doing the right thing? I'm standing my ground, and hope that she'll realize that she needs to apologize to at least my Son.

And it's hard with them going to the same school AND living in the same neighborhood....my son tries to say hi to him in the halls or even looks his way and he gives him dirty looks...I wish he would get over it but who knows what his Mom is saying to him.

I've got my fingers crossed that they don't get put on the same basketball team this year!!!!!!

~This is mostly a vent and just seeing if anyone has been in a similar situation and how you handled it......thanks!~ 

~Thanks for reading.......sorry it's so long!~

*UPDATE* Well, after not hearing from the other Mom for 2 days, still NO apology, she text me today to ask if she found someone to take her child in the morning, can I bring him home until she figures something out.  I'm thinking H*LL NO! Her kid has been very rude to my son since this happened and still no apology to either of us from either of them. I haven't text her back yet but I will be telling her once again how I feel. I'm STILL standing my ground......

 

[traciequine]

Oct. 9, 2008 at 1:17 PM

You are perfectly within your rights to say no and not have your son or yourself feeing victimized by and insensitive idiot. Her son is HER responsibility to get to and from school not yours. Don't allow her to emotionally balckmail you into doing her bidding. Hell, I would not have even waited until she did that. I would have done it the first day her kid got on my nerves. Brats are not my thing. I won't tolerate mine being a brat and sure as hell am not going to tolerate someone else's kids being a brat. Good for you for standing up for your kid and yourself.