Choices

[onemomsopinion]

I'm a busy stay at home Mom.   Like every other Mom, I work hard and try to keep up with my house and juggle my busy schedule.    I have one child, Harley.   He's a joy and adorable most of the time.  He can be tempermental and Harley and I regularly clash as we are more alike than either of us will admit.

We had a difficult pregnancy and an uncertain future when we decided to take our pregnancy to term.  Our son had a great many developmental delays and years of occupational,  physical and speech therapy.   It's all been worth it, but I struggle on occasion with the thought that had we not had him, we would have never known that he would be okay.   Nor how much joy and happiness he has brought into our lives.      Socially has been his biggest struggle as the older he gets, the more the kids notice subtle differences.  

My experience has made me question doctors advice.   As every doctor we spoke with to make our decision acted like this was simply black and white.   We were told in no uncertain terms not to have him.   It's also one of the many reasons that we stopped at having just one child.   Our son had such an uncertain future that I didn't seriously consider having another one until he was about six years old.    

We are closing to the door to my having another child.   But, we may adopt someday.   We've been toying with it for the past few years.    Our son loves this idea, but I find the whole idea frightening and scary.    I realize adoption is a wonderful thing, but how easy or difficult a process is it to get to that point I feel is another matter.   One that we may reach someday.  Who knows?   Perhaps.

I'm a military veteran and I spend most of my free time volunteering at my local elementary school.    I believe strongly in fighting for children and giving every child every opportunity to succeed.  Too many children need help and need extra support in school for a variety of reasons.  

 

 

  

 

 

[daydreamer]

Apr. 18, 2007 at 5:22 AM

Dear Onemomsopinion:

I truly admire you and your husband for not taking the doctor's advice.  Children are an absolute blessing and it upsets me that a doctor can pass such judgement based on what their sense of value is.

My sister has three children, two of which are special needs...one is has severe autism, the other a milder spectrum disorder.  My nieces are unique and beautiful.  They have taught all of us about life and that happiness is all that truly matters in the everyday. 

Best wishes to you,

Daydreamer