My first time meeting the whole family.

[pregojen]

So my boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years and when we first got together his family did NOT like me.  There was a bunch of drama and l lets just say- I wasn't who I am now. We both have been through very hard times over the last 16 months or so.  My boyfriend and I have been off and on more off before I had Dominic- who has really brought us more together and of course our families together for the good of the baby.

Today was my chance to really show him, and his whole family how much I've changed, how good of a mommy I am and how much mine and John's relationship has completely turned  a new leaf,   I was so nervous on Friday.

He lives with his mom for the time being, but any-who....His mom was to pick up me and the baby and have us over until a birthday party on Saturday.  (His nephew turned 2)  His mom was my biggest critic until now, but she has been slowly warming up to me the times she had come to see the baby.  Things went swimmingly!! From the moment they picked me up until the party was over today.  She was so hospitable and very caring about my comfort and just so laid back and like family to me.  I was nervous about just the way that I acted and other general etiquette.  I wondered if I would be "good enough" for her and his family.  Because he comes from a  family with a lot of money, and I've always been borderline poor always just making enough to get by.  I feel so accomplished, I was a perfect lady.

His sister was my 2nd worse critic, and it was Her sons birthday.  I was expecting her to be somewhat catty to me, which she totally wast, she acted like an actual sister-in-law.  Tons of Johns other family was there and seemed so please to meet me which made me feel more comfortable.  I was sociable, and did my best to be the perfect party guest.  I tried my damnedest not to fuck up in any way.  Even the baby was on his best behavior so I had one less thing to worry about.  I could feel eyes on me, like hmm, so this is Johnny's girl- the mother of his child.  I feel like I proved myself.  This was my first chance to introduce myself to his family.  It could not have gone any better!

Little Blake turned 2 and its like it wasn't even his party, he looked so grumpy, and kept to himself, but it was so cute! He and his sister loved their new cousin.  It was the first time they really got a proper introduction.

I was even invited to their Thanksgiving gathering- which I hear is as big as it gets. 

You only get one chance to make a first impression and I am SO HAPPY I made such a good impression.

                                                     

[pimpernelly]

Oct. 19, 2008 at 11:13 AM

Wow jen!! that great!! im happy for you. My dad has always been very judgemental. To this day my HUBBY is still nervous around my dad cuz of his tattoos...lol my dad thinks only people who have been in prison have tattoos...but anywho...my dad LOVES him!!!! My dad goes out of his way to please my hubby. He never did that for my sisters boyfriend. Who would have thought! lol

  I hope yur thanksgigving dinner is awesome!!!

[AMsMommy212]

Nov. 6, 2008 at 12:33 PM

hey i know this comment is a little late... but that is great news!

[Valerie7827]

Nov. 21, 2008 at 11:07 AM

Being a reformed "bad girl" myself I know how it feels to feel unaccepted by your mans family.   Although I get along with my inlaws now in the beginning I sorta took on the you don't like me tough shit attitude!!  Well, first impressions mean a lot and I certainly did not give a good one.  We are now married w/ 3 kids....against all odds, and his family has accepted me (I guess they figure why not, she's obviously not going anywhere!)  But I think life would have been much easier around them if I gave them a better first impression.  So congrats on making a good first impression.