SERIOUSLY!!!

[LisabzboyMom]

Ok, just let me say that my dd truly is a thoughtful, caring, understanding husband who does more around the house than most men would ever think of doing. In addition, he is an amazing, hands-on father who hates nothing more than when other men refer to spending time with their own children as "baby-sitting." That said...SERIOUSLY?!?!

Lately I've been putting in a lot of extra time at work ~ late hours, weekend hours, etc. Since I'm a teacher, I also end up bringing a lot home with me, that I do after the kids are in bed at night. My dd has been off work for quite a while with an injury, so he is with the kids a lot. This is not a problem, in fact if anyone should be a stay-at-home-dad, it's him. But, it seems like lately when I work more hours than I suppose he would like, he gets really pissy. Today we spent a lot of quality time as a family, as well as a lot of time just getting stuff done around the house. Around 4:00, I went in to work for a while to get ready for the week, and then I was going to do some grocery shopping before coming home for dinner. Well...I took longer than I had expected at work, and the fact that I was still there at 6:50 apparently caused him to lose his ever-loving mind. Here's the deal ~ apparently when he is irritated with me, it somehow causes a strange, unexplainable lapse in his mental capabilities. He called, and when he realized I was still at work, he said, "Oh." (long pause) "What should I feed the kids for dinner?" Excuse me, but you are a 39 year old grown man! Don't ask me, just open the fucking freezer and figure it out!!! Any other time, he'd be whipping up some meal without even thinking, but because I was working late and it apparently didn't sit well with him, he gets stupid? Yes, this may seem like a little thing for me to get so pissed about, but seriously, that question was designed with one thing in mind, and I don't do guilt well.

Ok, just had to get that off my chest...

[momof4boys7530]

Oct. 23, 2008 at 9:38 PM

Sorry I got to this so late...seriously...and piss off are my 2 fav sayings right now..so yes..seriously..I get ya! Don't have much comforting words to tell you but I hope it did help to get it off your chest...then it's easier to move on right?? LOL...how did it go when you got home after working/grocery shopping?

[whirlygirl]

Oct. 24, 2008 at 10:24 PM

Hope things are calmer for you now.

We go through it too. Sometimes its "what do i feed them?" (um food)= "why didn't you cook before you left?"  sometimes its "where are his clothes?" (um, in his closet) = "why didn't you lay out his clothes for him?"

AARRGGHH! pretend helplessness. Sure, you can program a control mechanism for a two-ton machine, but you can't move stuff around in the fridge to find some hot dogs.....