private profiles

[Nickquilts]

i am going to ask because i have thought about this for awhile.  Why would a person list their profile as private??  when some one posts a jornal and they want advice, on some when i click on to see who wrote it or what they might be going through it is private and no one can read it.  We are all grown-ups here and as much as cafemom, that is the one thing i can't understand.  i don't reply to ones that are private, its a personal choice, but i don't. 

So that is my question and i hope someone out there can give me some insight as to why that is.

thankyou

nickola

[amandae21]

Oct. 22, 2008 at 8:11 AM

Because there's a lot of groups on cafemom that are full of drama and people go to each others profiles to look at there personal stuff... like journals or pictures... to form judgements, take information, see what other groups people are in, etc..... basically it's because of drama spread all over cafemom. And some people do it because they are very sensitive to having pics of there children seen on the web.

[dotgautier]

Oct. 22, 2008 at 9:37 AM

A couple of months ago, there were a couple of men who made up accounts for Cafemom and were putting up false posts just to start fights and what not. And then they would go back to their own site and make fun of the women here. They ended up getting some young mom to send them revealing pics and got her to say a bunch of things that she probably shouldn't have. Anyway, right after that, I noticed that a lot of people were making their pages and posts private. To me if you don't want someone to see something, don't put it on the internet.

That being said, I might write a journal post that only my friends could see if it was something I didn't want a bunch of strangers opinions on. But that would be an extreme circumstance.

[pluma69]

Dec. 8, 2008 at 12:35 PM

Well, I have NOSY family members.... some i don't care too much for. So i figured if i put it on private they can't see what groups i'm apart of or what is on my page period. So in a small nutshell i guess that would be why..

[calgalmeg]

May. 22, 2009 at 9:01 AM

Well I agree with Amanda- for me I keep some of my things private because I want to be judged for what I say and how I conduct myself, not how I look or how my children look (or my marital status, religion, etc).  Also my ex has asked not to share pics of the kids with people I don't personally know, so as irritating as it is I try and respect his wishes by making those private as well.

[scrappermom2]

Oct. 23, 2009 at 11:39 PM

I had a post a few weeks ago about how I was upset at my mil and just needed to vent nothing bad really and later told the ladies that I had overreacted and that I was sorry but man did I get bashed and even had one mom say that she checked out my profile told m kids ages and that I had no right to be upset about a carseat situation.  And all of this just to make me look bad when all I wanted was a safe place to say how upset I was.  Until then I hadnt even given it a thought about being private but those moms really made it personal and it just got me thinking.