Reflections

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First my daughter turned 20 this week. For some reason I see this as a milepost. I have been replaying her life stepping stones in my head all week.  Which leads me to think of things from my past. Some things I rather not think about.

Second, I am still looking for full time permanent employment. I am starting to wonder just what am I doing wrong. My last temp job was a nightmare. I went home everyday crying. I am not the crying type. My manager was a verbally abusive witch. She seriously needs to have her hormone medication adjusted or seek therapy. On daily basis she made sure I knew I was the stupidest human on the face of the earth. Another thing that makes me want to reflect on my life.

Third, reading post online. MySpace, MomCafe and comments on news items makes me wonder what is wrong with people. Can't people debate intelligently. Can't people examine other people's point of view and accept it for what it is? An opinion.

Fourth, after 8 years of working with teenage girls, I have come to the conclusion that there is a fine line between supporting your daughter and being a stage mother. There are some crazy parents out there. The ones that have no idea that their daughter even belongs to the club! The ones that are great.."hey honey you belong to this club, not me..it is your responisblity to do (fill in blank)...to the crazies, the girl learns nothing because moma does it all and constantly nags the girl. And then insists her daughter is due all honors and awards. This type of mom also talks about everyone else and makes her daughter out to be the victim.

Sooo what have I come up with?

No religion is better than any other religion.

Let your child explore the world and make their own opinions.  If you stand strong in your own belief, faith and convictions, your child will respect you for that, not for making them toe YOUR line.

Yelling, screaming, tearing down others doesn't get your point across, just makes you look like a crazy bitch.

Kids need something to do as kids. But not over done. Pick a sport, a musical outlet, a hobby or a club. And be the best you can be at that. Remember it is for FUN. The activity is for the kid, not you to relive your childhood. Don't let your kid give up and the first obstacle, but also realize when the activity really isn't for them. Ex...your  son might not like basketball, but loves acting. Switch activities. By high school they should know what they want to try.

Does any of this reflection make me happier. Nope, it just makes me more able to cope with the swirl of garbage floating around me.