pissed off upset and hurt, i was lied too!

[chris-s-wife]

first things first.. yall tell me wouldnt you freak if the slightest thing happened to your new baby too??? my hubby was watching him yesterday morn cause i had, had a migrane for 2 days.. so i was trying to get rest, that of which i dont get often! and 45 mins after he had been out in our living room with out son... i litterally woke to hearing zachery screaming and cryig bloody murder!! mind you hes 2 months old today. so hub decides to take me asking him 10 times what happened to tell me that zachery whacked his head on our desk 2 times. somewhere around the soft spot area too. so of course im a new mom first time mom im freaking out! so i watched over our son like a hawk for the rest of the day to see if anything had changed in his behavior ya know. but somthing just told me by the way he was crying somthing else had happened... and i didnt wanna tell my hubby i thought he was lieing in all but i had a gut feeling. so come 2am that night or should i say this morning zachery woke to eat.. and didnt go back to sleep right away so hub and i were talking bout what happened. and i asked him one last time did he fall.... he still assured me he haddnt.. so i asked him to tell me exactly where he hit his head and how right. cause i need to know every detail to tell his pediatrition.so he told me he didnt know he wasnt paying that close attention. so i said what ever and put zachery in bed. once i put him in bed i again asked my hub did he fall. its 4 am now, he said yes.. my heart sank in my chest. cause one, my 2 month old fell.. didnt know how yet but he fell.. two, my husband lied to me about our son! and 3 it took him till 4am in the morning to tell me the freaking truth...so as he is now telling me what happened my expression goes from ok he hit his head he seems fine to damn near in tears and he tells me see this is why i dont tell you things.which then makes me wonder how many other times somthing bad has happened now! supposedly he left zachery on our couch sitting up and he rolled down onto his back and pushed himself off the couch.. i can see it happeneing only cause he is really interested in kicking off of everything with his legs.. i mean he pushes himself around basically.. lol or scoots better term. h tells me he went into the kitchen to grab the milk for his bottle and herd him moving around and when he walked back out he seen him slowly sliding off the couch, head first none the less... he said he didt fall or fall hard he kinda just slid off of the couch.i asked him if he had tryed to run to catch him ect. and he got pissed off and said no i stood their laughed while he fell.. which is just pure assinieing. so now im in tears and walk into our bedroom and grab our sleepingson an squeeze him tighter then i have ever squeezed.. cause now his dad had just told me he fell off of our couch. do u know how bad i wanted to hit my husband last night when he finally told me. what would you have done? i get told im over reacting about it blah blah. the only thing i see is my 2 month old son just fell!!!!! i cant beleive he lied to me about our son knowing i couldnt live without him. or live with myself if somthing bad ever happened to him. thats my baby boy zachery james hes 2 months today oct 30th.

[nojomommy07]

Oct. 30, 2008 at 12:11 PM

Oh sweetie...I totally understand!  My dh has sleep apnea, and he would fall asleep holding our children.  Our oldest together, he dropped twice, once when he was about 2-3 months old.  He lied to me too....said he didn't remember, but after he thought about it, realized he did.  We went to the er after calling my sil who was a nurse.  He was fine...but it happened again.  Then, when our dd was exactly 1 month, the same thing happened, only we have a wood floor now.  She scared me because she fell asleep and I had a hard time keeping her awake.  She was fine, btw. They are WAY more resilient than we think.  I made him get tested and he now has a CPAP machine, which helps him get quality sleep and no more falling asleep holding babies.  Our last two kids have not had to be subjected to that, thankfully.  :)  Hugs mama!

[MissNikki23]

Oct. 30, 2008 at 3:56 PM

I would have freaked out too... i mean you his father the least you could do it tell the truth so he fell.... dont lie about it it doesnt make him a bad dad all babies fall at one point... my FIL dropped my niece at 5 months old it doesnt make him a bad person imean he wasnt allowed to hold her for a while but i mean come on. oh and i probably would have hit him, for lieing.