This morning was a very bittersweet awakening for me.  Last night I went to bed with the news that we, as a nation, had elected our first black president.  Words can not begin to describe what an amazing feeling this news left me with.  I did not vote for President Elect Obama.  That being said, I am perfectly capable of seeing just how historic and extraordinary a moment this is. 

My children will be able to remember the day that our country took a huge step forward.... a step into a new era.  The day that Jim Crow laws and their legacy were placed in the shadow of love, acceptance and hope.

Then I woke up and turned on the news.

This morning I was reminded that we, as a nation, have NOT taken such huge leaps.  We just redirected our energies and hatred.

And my children got to see me weep, instead of rejoice. 

Behold the homosexual.  The new, politically correct target for our hatred and discrimination.

I live in California.  I have been a very vocal opponent of Proposition 8 and make no apologies for such.  Part of me already knew that Prop 8 would pass.  This "blue" state is not so "blue" as many would believe.  Yet......part of me held on to some sliver of hope and so I fell alseep with my fingers crossed and hope and justice on my mind.  It was short lived.  Californians passed Prop 8 by a narrow majority and, thus, set us forth on a path of hatred, discrimination and UNconstitutional conduct.

A "no" vote on Prop 8 would have set us on a path towards being truly civic and justice minded citizens of this so-called "blue" state.

Prop 8


  • Changes the California Constitution to eliminate the right of same-sex couples to marry in California.
  • Provides that only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California.

A "no" vote on 8 would've guaranteed equal rights for an entire group of citizens of our 'fine' state.  It would have signaled that we choose to follow our constitution and that we place our fellow human beings above what we consider "icky".  It would have said "Okay, I don't agree with your "choices" but I won't demonize you based on MY feelings/choices/beliefs."  (disclaimer: I do not feel that homosexuality is a choice.  However, this is a regular argument agains homosexuality)

Let's define irony, shall we?

Yesterday we, as a nation, voted a man into the most powerful office in the free world.  This same man, at one point in recent history, would not have been able to marry another human being that was not the same race/color that he is.  He would have been restrained by unconstitutional laws that were put in place and upheld for decades solely through the support of people who didn't mind placing THEIR beliefs above another human beings.... laws that were supported and upheld, in many instances, based on religious bigotry.

On that same day, several states throughout our great nation passed laws/amendments to place those very same restraints on a whole new minority group by suggesting that THEIR religious dogma somehow has a place in OUR constitution.  On that same day, several states laughed in the face of the change that many Americans hoped for and demanded.

Yesterday we made the decision to set our Constitution on fire and throw it out the window.

Welcome to the new and improved Jim Crow era.

I am heartsick.

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Nov. 5, 2008 at 2:44 PM

I am so right there with you. I was so incredibly embarrassed to be an American this morning. I like Obama, but as much as he was a step forward, Prop 8 was 10 steps back. How is it that this country, who is so proud of this being a melting pot for all kinds of different religions, races, and other backgrounds, that we would allow this blatant discrimination to take place. I am ashamed. Truly ashamed.

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Nov. 5, 2008 at 4:10 PM

I had really high hopes for this election.  I did support Obama, so I was so happy last night when it was announced that he won.  This morning, when I opened my email to 13 racist, hateful, shockingly ignorant emails from friends and family that I would have previously thought to be more compassionate, caring - and honestly, smarter than this - I realized that this election has brought out the absolute worst in a segment of the population and we are going to have to work over and around them to achieve any type of growth or healing in this country. 

The passing of Prop 8 is incredibly disheartening.  Could this be challenged and taken back to court?  If so, it should be as soon as possible.  It's unconstitutional and should be struck down as so.

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Nov. 5, 2008 at 4:14 PM

I'm not sure what the next step will be, nightshade.  The last time they passed the ban it was overturned as unconstitutional.  Now they amended our constitution so that it's not unconstitutional (if that make sense).  I hope this is dealt with rapidly so that it doesn't fester OR get swept under the rug.

I do agree that this election brought out the absolute worst in people.  It's sickening.  :(  Time cures all, right?  We shall see.

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Nov. 5, 2008 at 4:34 PM

It makes me sick, too, but then again I live in a somewhat backwards state when ti comes to anyone that's somehow different. 

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Nov. 5, 2008 at 4:52 PM

Homosexuality is the new abortion as far as the Religious Right is concerned.  I just love it when people use God as a commodity.

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Nov. 5, 2008 at 10:27 PM

I was so disappointed in our state today. Voters supported the rights of the chickens, but not the people? I'm angry that it has tainted my joy in Obama's win, and embarrassed to be a Californian. I just keep reminding myself that it is not the end of the road, just a bump. But my gay friends are more gracious about it than I am. *sigh* I 'm in the boat with you.

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Nov. 6, 2008 at 10:31 AM

This makes me so sick. I've never heard any real secular motivations for prohibiting marriage between same-sex partners. So, how can we claim separation of church and state when we pass laws like this that are so firmly and solely rooted in religious beliefs?


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Dec. 31, 2008 at 5:17 PM

I hope my kids remember that they went with thier mom and grandfather to vote for Obama. It was my first time voting for the President. My son even went inside the booth with me. Obama has alot of cleaning up to do first. He'll need a second term!

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