Why is it.....

[TamithaSue35]

That people like to believe things that other people say and don't bother asking you if it's true or give you the option to explain anything??? I have always been very proud of the fact that I could say I don't hate anyone and really never have. I have strongly disliked a few people in my life but that's it? But now I hate the fact that I think I have allowed myself to hate someone. Short story....My brother and his wife live in FL. My mom who also lives in Ohio but is about 2 1/2 hours from me just had open heart surgery a couple months ago. My mom who has helped me and my immediate family out over the years, especially since my dad passed away in 1997 had to let my brother take over her finical things before having the surgery because she is 80 and they didn't know what could happen. Well my brother (who makes good money working for the city and has no children) has never had to get help from my mom freaked out when he found out how much my mom has helped me over the years...we are talking thousands but there was a few times alot was needed (had a fire, my husband and son was in the hospital and almost died, etc) and she helped out with bills off and on over the years. Well he took it upon himself to let everyone else in the family, my sister, niece and brother in law, that live near my mom just how much I had borrowed over the years and also that he thought I had used her and taken advantage of her...I can not believe all this is happening to me. It feels like they are all turning against me and up until all this our family has always been pretty close. My brother and I was real close before he moved to FL in 1986 then we kinda drifted apart.......but my sister, niece, brother-in-law and mom have always been VERY close....what my brother and now his wife are saying and doing are turning everyone against me. I am even having a hard time going up to see my mom in the rehab place she's in because I normally stay at my sisters but my brother and his wife have made it hard for me to feel comfortable staying there...it's just so messed up I can't believe it. I might have borrowed a lot of money from my mom over the years but does that make me a bad person? My brother's wife has sent emails to me and all of the family about how insensitive and selfish I am and ect. I know I'm a good person but when you are hearing this and NOBODY is taking up for you how can you not start to feel this way... Sorry so long...just really need to get this off my chest. No real close friends to talk to anymore and my niece who I have always been able to talk to about anything with can't talk to me about this because it puts her in the middle of it all and that's not fair to her!!! LIFE SUCKS!!!!!! Or at least my brother and his wife do......lol

[LYNDELOU]

Nov. 9, 2008 at 11:58 PM

Ignore their ignorance!!! Seems death and parents growing older and getting put in homes in this time of day and ages , it tears families apart more then bringing them together....

Your Mother gave you that money to help you , therefore Sweetie it is NONE of your other family members business...PERIOD...

Tell them to grow up...It is what is is and THEY need to move on...

Hugs to you Sweetie!!

[TamithaSue35]

Nov. 10, 2008 at 10:04 AM

Thanks :)

(Original Poster)

[mommais10]

Jan. 5, 2009 at 8:25 AM

It really isn't any of there buisness,your mom gave you the money ,not them.I distance myself from my family because of all of their drama.Let them talk,you know your mom loved you and wanted to help you or she wouldn't have given it to you!I wouldn't worry about it,they'll get over it.

 

BIG HUGS........christa