Maybe I am really not ready for dealing with people on CM's.  I have great kids, one of them is a jock, the other gay.  They take good care of eachother and are very typical brothers, they fight, they laugh, and watch over me and their Dad.  It has not been easy to have a child that is gay but I wouldn't trade him for anything.  I guess what I am getting around to saying is I have been all over the world and I have met a lot of wonderful people here on CM.  In the same respect I come across more cruelty on this same board than I have ever seen before.  It makes me fear for what both of my sons will face out there.  People really are cruel and really do not care what they say.  I guess it has been a wake up call for me.  I really believe that humans are basically good some where in every one is a part of them that is kind.  Yea, here lately not so much.

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melam...
Nov. 11, 2008 at 3:52 AM

If it helps, pnwmom, I think people tend to be MORE cruel on the internet than they are in real life. They can post "anonymously" online, they will not be held liable for their words or actions on the internet, whereas if they actually said some of these things to people they know, they would be held responsible for their words and deeds. Every online message board I've ever been a part of has this problem, and it's just because some people feel comfortable to say the horrible things they may think but don't have the courage to say in real life.

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BabyB...
Nov. 11, 2008 at 4:05 PM

Well! Hey! I know we talked the other night- just remember that people tend to do alot of hurting when they really don't have to step up to thier words. Not just the anon- but some of these other ladies, ...well...I wouldn't say ladies because they are far from being ladies. Lets say women, some of them would never say half of what they say on here to your face, because frankly they would be eating thier words (literally). I tend to be one of the more aggressive ones on here, and thats me in real world- I think that people should stand up for what they feel is right and at the same time defend themselves if it gets to that point. Some say God says its "wrong to be Gay", I say "They are NOT God". Others have no right to make you feel bad for your life, because you have a fantastic life. You have children that adore you because you love them and accept them. Its the ones that preach "God says this" and "God says that" on here that will have to defend thier actions to him, because he is going to ask them right off the bat "Why did you create so much Hate saying you were speaking for me?? Are you without sin to judge my children??"

Take Care Dear!

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femin...
Nov. 11, 2008 at 9:26 PM

I agree with melamommy24, people can hide behind their computer screens and be a lot more cruel than they are in the real world.  Still, it's heartbreaking to see the hatred and bigotry in their hearts.  I think that for the most part, most people are more tolerant and accepting than those who are hateful and cruel. 

What I think is amazing is that a lot of people my age (thirty-ish) who are gay had parents who didn't accept them or who tried to make them something they were not.  One of my close friends couldn't even come out until after his parents died, he was so afraid of losing them.  What I'm seeing now, in my younger friends is that their parents love and accept them no matter what.  That's beautiful to me.  I have a friend who is 21 and he's gay and he said none of his gay friends even worried about that.  His parents are so proud of him and give him nothing but support and love, the way it should be.  He and his friends were out in high school (in a small town even) and they didn't face as much prejudice as just a generation before.   I know that it's babysteps,  because GLBT people still face so much discrimination, but it makes me hopeful that it will be that much better for the next generation.

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tweet...
Nov. 11, 2008 at 11:59 PM

This might be spam ... It doesnt feel good when somebody does it to you huh?  

on the other hand i know how cruel people can be ... and am sorry people have been cruel to you .

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pnwmom
Nov. 12, 2008 at 1:17 AM

Wow I would never go on anyones journal and say anything negative on either hand. 

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MeAga...
Nov. 12, 2008 at 6:43 AM

You're not alone Momma. You have friends :)

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older
Nov. 12, 2008 at 1:49 PM

YOU AND I HAVE SOMETHING IN COMMON, MY DAUGHTER IS GAY AND SHE IS MY PRIDE AND JOY, AND ONE THING THEY HAVE TO HAVE IS REALLY THICK SKIN, BECAUSE PEOPLE CAN BE SO DEGRADING TOWARDS HERE, BUT SHE HAS LEARN TO COPE, AND I STRIKE BACK FOR HER ANYTIME I CAN. 

I LIVE TO SEE THE DAY WHEN THEY WILL BE JUST AS EQUAL, HOPEFULLY IN MY LIFETIME.

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Waxin...
Dec. 1, 2008 at 6:29 AM

Yep, there are lots of Chicken Shit Ignorant Right Wing Self Righteous Twits on CM.   (I think they can be fun if you make a sport of them) - not meaning to make light of your concerns, sorry about my multiple use of adjectives but it's better to be armed with information rather than not so I guess I like the good and the bad on CM because IRL these spineless, soulless creatures on a snakes belly wouldn't even open their timid little mouths.

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momo2...
Dec. 29, 2008 at 7:25 PM

Yep, there are lots of Chicken Shit Ignorant Right Wing Self Righteous Twits on CM.   (I think they can be fun if you make a sport of them) - not meaning to make light of your concerns, sorry about my multiple use of adjectives but it's better to be armed with information rather than not so I guess I like the good and the bad on CM because IRL these spineless, soulless creatures on a snakes belly wouldn't even open their timid little mouths.

Waxing_Lyrical Dec. 1, 2008 at 5:29 AM

Well said!  AMEN!  But, these people standing up there on their soap boxes pointing out what is wrong with the rest of the world need to CLEAN THEIR OWN BACK STEPS BEFORE THEY START TRYING TO SWEEP SOMEONE ELSE'S. 

Keep your chin up and your shoulders squared!  You are not alone in this world.  I might be miles away, but you have a shoulder to lean on and a friend that will listen with my heart! 

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