what if i dont have a partner...???

[rockstarjessie]

alright..im a single mom like plenty of others out there. And i have just about  had with the phrase...

"you and your partner"

attached to every parenting advice thing i read...

IE: something bout giving Tylenol and making sure BOTH understand the dosage...once you talk to your doctor tell your partner, make sure you and your partner are in agreeance on bedtime routines, when deciding on daycare make sure your partner has a say for his feelings to...and HIS.... whats to say its not two females who adopted a baby??? huh huh huh

in todays worlds I think some sites ( will remain nameless bc besides this HUGE flaw in the writing) i quiet like the advice I get.

But thanks to them every time i read an article im reminded im a single mom...and oh man those are memories i hate facing when trying to figure out my sons next milestone in his 5 months of life.

if i have to go to sensitivity training for work shouldn't these writers have to go too? i mean come on its not all leave it to beaver families anymore....cant we find better ways to word things?

like instead of your partner can we also say your support system or maybe the childs/erns extendend care givers...

I know that its just easier to write your partner...

BUT I DON'T HAVE ONE!!

and neither do a lot of other men or woman out there...

single parents are the norm today so why are we still writing things that just remind the single parents that they are single? the fact that 50% if not more of the population are single parents has not come across the editors desk? 

it just irks me..

[justme6367]

Nov. 16, 2008 at 7:27 AM

I agree.  My daughter is 17 1/2, and I've been a single mom the whole time.  I've learned to just ignore those things, knowing the truth.  But that doesn't mean that it doesn't still hurt to be reminded of this whenever I do need to go and look for help and/or advice. 

[adulation]

Nov. 16, 2008 at 6:53 PM

eh, i'm over it now.  it bothered me the most when i was pregnant though, and all the pregnancy books and websites always talk about the baby's dad,  or your husband, or whatever.  wtf?  not all pregnant women are in a relationship,  and that's when i was all hormonal and emotional about it.

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[Lovelylis]

Nov. 16, 2008 at 10:03 PM

i'm with u jessi!!! keep ur head up tho girl; the more time that goes by the easier it gets to adjust to being a single parent:)  i've been doing it for 3 yrs now and i think i'm doin pretty ok for my kids!!! people just jump to concllusions tho that if you have a kid you HAVE to have a significant other....used to burn me but not anymore; take pride in what you do ALONE every day and let those stupid comments roll off your back!!! xoxo Lisa

[alabamahapywife]

Nov. 16, 2008 at 10:47 PM

[KidsHelper]

Nov. 18, 2008 at 9:48 AM

I was watching a tv show yesterday, and they were showing a treatment for acne.  They said to have your partner put it on your back when you are showering.  Well, I'm sure glad I don't need it, since by the time I shower most days my husband has been gone to work for 6 hours or more!!  WTH??  If you're single, I guess you just to have acne on your back and too bad for you?  How rude! 

I could see saying to make sure you consult your partner, if you have one, about medicine, daycare, etc. but not to just assume everyone has one.  I don't have any family support system, so if I didn't have hubby, I'd be totally screwed!