Hate Mail

[jeweldog]

I use to belong to a Cafe Mom's Group (left unnamed) and found some of my posts there were being deleted or locked or ignored... no biggie at first... but 3 weeks ago I hit a really low spot and was desperate for some help.  I turned to the group for some help but for almost a week, it was ignored.  I got the hint and decided to leave the group but not before I let them know why and that I was upset about how I was treated.  So for all these weeks, nothing, but this weekend I have gotten some really nasty hate mail from some of these group members that is boarder line verbal assault.  Hell... one was even on my friend list (not now!). 

WTF?!?  I got nothing from this group and moved on to another and haven't been back to that other one since so were do these bitches get off attacking me.  I was on the verge of suicide and in a really bad place and they attack me now... Weeks later?  I blocked the worst one from contacting me again, but now every time I see something from someone in that group, I cringe and have to steel myself to read it.  There have been some messages from some really lovely ladies that do want to help and have given some great advice... to them I send all my love... to the haters... MAY YOU GET EXACTLY WHAT YOU DESERVE!!!

Don't we have enough problems with media and so called "parenting experts" that bombard us on TV, radio, websites, and newspapers that tell us that we are terrible people and mothers unless we raise our children the way they tell us to.  They make us feel guilty for working outside the home and for being stay at home moms, for bottle feeding, for breast feeding, for everything.  Now we do it to each other here too.  I'm just a mom trying to raise my son the best I can.  It may not be perfect, but it's the best I can do.  He goes to day-care (he loves it), he is circumcised and vaccinated, he is both breast and bottle fed, I don't like letting him cry it out, but he sleeps in his own crib (when he sleeps),  I use a stroller and an exercise saucer, I snuggle and cuddle him all the time (I can't get enough of his laughs), and so on.  Some of these groups welcome everyone except those who don't or do certain things (than they really DON'T welcome everyone) and some are just so judgemental.  Lighten up already and give each other a break! 

Sometimes I think I sould start a group for mom doing the best we can... no criteria- no judgements- no BS... just moms.  Wouldn't that be a change?

[friendlyvirgo47]

Nov. 17, 2008 at 7:53 PM yeah that would be a change

[Sendmorecoffee]

Nov. 20, 2008 at 9:59 PM

Please join Non-Domestic Goddesses the most supportive group I've found here. moms who embrace their imperfections and each other. I love them. No judgement, just love!!!!!!