I do.All the churches I've ever went to were like that.Everyone has experienced this in church and it's unfortunate.They have greeters who are friendly and in a way it kinda makes up for the snobiness.I wonder what is causing this division in the church?Why are Christians being rude and unfriendly?Has it just gotten so bad that nobody cares anymore?That this is the way it's become and there's nothing we can do about this?I've heard pastors talk about this.They say,Christians will talk to people they can relate to,when they make friends they won't be snobby with them.Well that's not what the Bible says.WE ARE TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER.We aren't to show partiality to anybody.We aren't to have material possesions get in the way of our fellowship with one another.These pastors need to step it up,if they want their congregation to grow spiritually.No,they are more concerned with church growth than growing the church they already have!They don't want to put their congregation in a uncomfortable position or tell them the truth about the Bible because this might scare them away from church.I at times may be snobby to someone I can't relate to but this is sin.Instead I'm to humble myself before God and take up humility and show love and hospitality to these Christians.I've noticed that this is the way we treat others in the church,that it has become a way of life,that no one is taking responsibility for their actions and this is considered normal in churches.It is not normal,it is a lie from the devil to ruin unity among believers.If the pastors cared there would be change but noone cares and it's sad because many people are turned off by Christianity because of this sin.We aren't supposed to make friends or fellowship with people in the church we can relate to.We shouldn't be putting obstacles in our way to stop us from fellowshiping with others who could help us.

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Nov. 17, 2008 at 1:00 PM

Nope my church is very friendly and sincere...you can with me if you would like! We are all sinners saved by grace :O)

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Nov. 17, 2008 at 1:00 PM

I have been to a few...when I lived in larger cities.  It was very discouraging! It was like they had so many, they could not notice the individual.  Thankfully, we now live in a smaller place - and attend a very small church.  I have heard others say they need a big church for the socialization of their kids.  But, I am tickled pink with our small group.  They are truly 'family', and that is what it should be.

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Nov. 17, 2008 at 1:02 PM OH, YES!!! I was raised in churches like this Even went to one like it until about 8 years ago. I think churches get like this because it's safe. They stay in their little bubble and keep the "riff raff" out. It's VERY sad and goes against everything the church should be. Thankfully, the one we're in now is completely the opposite! Very casual and friendly.

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Nov. 17, 2008 at 1:03 PM

It is hard, I too at times stick to myself not because I think I am better than anyone, that couldn't be farther from the truth. Honestly I think alot of people are insecure and that is what adds to having a hard time welcoming newcomers. I do however try hard to pray about it and make a concious effort and every time I have I have been blessed for it. I don't think alot of Christians mean to seem snobby although I'm sure some are. I try not to worry about what others don't do and more of what I should do.

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Nov. 17, 2008 at 1:12 PM

When I moved to a new area, I experienced this happening ~  I didn't really understand it for a couple of years.  The church I attended was 150 years old, and the congregation was just about the same age!  It was not intentionally for this congregation because I think they truly wanted to attract younger families, it just was not working with such an older crowd.

I finally understood, when my oldest son was about 4, after attending for 4 years, that I was just not growing spiritually in God and in friendships with the other parishners.  I found a church right down the road, that has a mixtures of young, middle, and old people and lots of children, in which the my old church did not.  

I found this church by sending my oldest to VBS.  It was the best move, I have every made!  I have made some really good friends & everyone truly is interested in everyone.  (and nice).

Just like Pastors or Ministers move on to a different call, parishioners find they must sometimes.


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Nov. 17, 2008 at 1:27 PM

I was in a small church too and I hated it.There wasn't alot of people to fellowship with but everyone knew everybody and that was nice.The sunday church mentality is;show up to church,don't talk to anybody and leave.This is very common in churches and it is sad.There are alot of Christians who are lonely and not getting the support and encouragement they need from the church.The Bible says we should meet together and we do but it also says to bear one anothers burdens and confess our sins to one another and we aren't doing that.Most churches let you talk to the pastor or counslor there or you can drop a prayer request card in but that's it.The support we need should be coming from other Christians in our church.There should be ministries in the church that get people to open up to one another and be vulnerable with one another like the Bible says.Church to me is like a University,it's a place to learn and socialize but it's not a place to live out what the Bible really says about being a Christian.The only ministry that ever comforted me as a Christian is ;Celebrate Recovery.There we humble ourselves and be vulnerable with one another and learn from one another.It's the closest thing to what the Bible says we are to do.And they teach things in the Bible that you'll never hear in a regular church.These people are ready for change and they have come to the end of their ropes.In return they are given the best scriptures in the Bible to live by.Thus,though they are weak they are strong and anyone who practices Christianity by Celebrate Recovery is a true Christian,because they teach you you are weak without God's help and you rely on God's help more than if you were going to a regular church.

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Nov. 17, 2008 at 1:46 PM

There are some Bible studies at my church that have offered hope and healing to women by discussing women issues.They've talked about worry,depression,anxiety and it was ministering to me but then you have to interact with these women there.They are puffed up with their ministry efforts and it gets a little annoying.This is where I have to humble myself and not judge them.That whatever they are doing is between them and God.I think the church is trying to offer help to women especially by having these kind of Bible studies.They pray for you-but that's it,you're basically on your own to live out the Christian life and that's not Biblical.

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