When my baby was born, none of my family came to visit. After begging my mom, she showed up a month later. Only her. Not my dad or my brother or my sister. Then we told them our plan was to go to my grandmother's house for Christmas, which was where we had met up with them last year, but I told them my SO had already requested that we spend the New Year with his family. Well, I got an e-mail back from them saying that they had decided to spend Christmas at home and go to my grandmother's for the New Year. I wrote them back saying we were going to stick with our original plans, and I got this in return "Sad we won't get to see you or Rosalie because you aren't willing to visit Houston a couple of days later." No, what's sad is that they couldn't come visit me or my baby when she was born, even though she was born in the summer (and I should add they were only a few hours away when I went into early labor and they never stopped by to see how I was). What's sad is that they haven't been able to visit for the past 3 1/2 months she's been alive. What's sad is they expect me to change our whole schedule for them. I'm really beginning to think they don't even want to meet her. I know they consider me a huge failure because I'm not married. They didn't even talk to me for a while when they found out I was pregnant. Everyone said things would change once she was born. Then they said things would change once they had seen her. Well, nothing has changed. You'd think they'd want to see their granddaughter and niece. My brother and sister still live at home, but they haven't ever asked about her, and they've never shown any interest in meeting her. And I think my parents had something to do with that. My mother has blatantly told me that she told my sister I was a sinner and she wasn't to look up to me, and she's also told me that she never tells anyone about me or my daughter (they moved the same summer I left home).
So I emailed my grandmother asking her if we could come visit her for Christmas. We really wanted to be there for her since her dad died this year. I told her I knew my parents were coming later but we had decided not to change our plans. I also shared with her some of my frustrations about my parents, because she wasn't married when she got pregnant with my mom, and I was hoping she could help me through it. Well, she emailed me back saying that my parents have every right to treat me how they do, and that she doesn't tell anyone about me or my daughter, either. She also told me that she thinks we're horrible parents because my SO hasn't been able to find a job. She ended the email by saying if we came to her house for Christmas we'd have to stay in separate rooms.
We decided not to go. In fact, after this Christmas I'm not planning on ever communicating with any of them again.