Trials and Tribulations

[ZsMommy]

That certainly would describe this year.

Almost lost my marriage to some bimbette co-worker who was building an emotional attachment to my husband (and vice versa) because HER marriage sucked and was falling apart and started boo-hooing to my husband who would listen,and you know how things go from there.

We had it out-Majorly had it out-and my husband was able to see through the illusion-Quit his job on HIS OWN behalf and we moved 10hrs away to another state to rebuild our our marriage and to make a better future for our daughter.

He's enrolled in a technical school-keeping a 4.0 grade average. We have a good school, for our daughter with a wonderful teacher and services for her (As she has Asperger's Syndrome)

But in the process there's been no work to be found-Seriously.

And we nearly were evicted two days ago-We had to go to the Salvation Army for assistance (I will NEVER take those red buckets for granted fro this point)

We have to apply at the county office for food stamps and any other assistance we qualify for just to tide us over til something comes up.

He's been in contact with the school he attends about job placement-nothing is going right.

This move was to improve our family...Right now it's trying to break us.

And please-I'm not whining or exaggerating-I hate being in this position-No one likes to be broken and humbled.

And I know there's people out there who are having it worse than us.

I'm just drained. Drained by trying to let our 8yr old daughter no there'll be no turkey for Thanksgiving and Santa can't bring alot (I do have a few small things put aside from purchases I made when I was working)-not that I believe in spoiling her...But she's finally at the point of comprehending the holidays (her Autism allows her to understand the world at a much younger level than her chronological age)

This is what hurts.

And IAM thankful for my friends who are helping me through this-but I feel horrible that I even need to lean on my friends. I'd much rather give than receive.

Anyhow-this is what's been going on in my life. I hide the rough stuff behind the scenes-Mask it with laughter when people are around and cry in the shadows and the quiet moments.

Trusting in my faith,and thankful for those who unite with me in prayer-Your prayers keep me afloat. Thank you.

Anyhow...I honestly do wish each and everyone who reads this a truly blessed Thanksgiving.

Hug your children and loved ones,and please don't turn your nose up at the people with the red kettle and bell this time of year (Salvation Army)-you just never know who's life you may touch in the process.

(((HUGS)) to you my friends

*** Footnote*** Salvation Army never helped us (it just placed a hold on the eviction,We filed in Nov...We waited patiently,and when we asked what was going on because we are back to being evicted-they said they couldn't help w/ Nov (we FILED) in Nov because it was now December...WTH??? They never even told us they were not approving assistance.

Tags: faith, friends, stress, thanksgiving

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[dreamer_8568]

Nov. 26, 2008 at 12:29 PM

i know that must be tough i know my fiances hours got cut at work and my job is pretty close to being closed, i'm hoping its not till next year but who knows. we just moved into a bigger house with slightly higher rent but not living beyond our means at that time....right now i'm kind of freaking out though for what the future holds especially with the economy being what it is. anyways my point is i understand and i also put whatever change is possible into the buckets because u never know when you will need it and i think its good for my kids to understand the importance of helping also. happy thanksgiving!

[psumom5]

Nov. 26, 2008 at 1:05 PM

Hugs!

[mutts914]

Nov. 26, 2008 at 1:33 PM

i'm sorry you are going through this. you will be in my prayers. i hope things work out soon.

((hugs))

[itsazoohere]

Nov. 26, 2008 at 4:12 PM

You are in my prayers and you know we are all here if you need us.

Looking back over the trials in my life,I will have to PM you my story some time,  it always seemed that if I could just make it through the bump in the road or pull myself up one more time when I thought I could not handle anymore trouble, I was always rewarded with something bigger and better then I had hoped for.

Heres to hoping your trial is a short one and the bigger and better is right around the corner.

[Rachel345]

Nov. 26, 2008 at 8:16 PM

(((hugs)))

[ZsMommy]

Nov. 26, 2008 at 10:34 PM

Thanks friends-It means alot.

On a brighter note-we were blessed with the means to buy a turkey and fixins for tomorrow. Our daughter is so excited.

And my husband and I are humbled and thankful for that gift.

Blessings to all.

(Original Poster)

[MamaDiane]

Nov. 29, 2008 at 9:37 PM

I know it will all pay off Heids...you guys have a very trying year, but there is no doubt in my mind that it all makes us stronger.  I am sure Zoe will have the Christmas of her dreams. My prayers are always with you.  {{Hugs}}

[mom2simon]

Dec. 3, 2008 at 12:56 PM

Ahh, now I see... I read this after my chatter.  I know it's hard right now and it totally completely sucks but try to remember that this will hopefully bring you two closer and strengthen your marriage.  Enjoy the little things and rejoice in the few things that you have :)  It sounds like you're already doing that.  I was a not-so-secret santa for a mom on here last year and it was so awesome to be able to help someone out.  I would love to get your address so I can send you something or at least a card or... something.  Please don't feel ashamed, everybody needs help once in a while.  Just remember the wise words of The Beatles, "I get by with a little help from my friends!"  (((hugs))) & love