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Looking for an angel this christmas!
- Dec 2, 2008 at 11:48 AM
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We struggle every week to pay bills. my dh works and i am looking for work, but with no day care and no way to pay for it its difficult to say the least. This week when he gets paid (a short check becasue of the holiday last week) we wont have money left for food or gas. so i dont really know what we are going to do. Im sure we will figure that out as we always do Im am struggling to figure out a way to pay for christmas for my kids. I hate for them to have nothing under the tree after everything they have been through these last few years. I do the best i can to make sure they have what they need but still we always come up short. My daughter especially needs to know that there are good people out there who can love her. When she was five she was molested by her uncle and ever since then she has struggled with everything, including her asthma, we had to move out of a nice 3 bedroom trailer into a rundown 2 bedroom that is falling apart around our feet. She spends 8-12 weeks a year in the hospital with asthma related illness and she hates going to the hospital for anything cause she knows they will admit her. She takes several meds that her insurance doesnt pay for them all so there goes moer money out the window and co pays every time we have to go the hospital or doctor. My son gets left behind alot because i am constantly taking my daughter to this appointment or that specialist or this office for that ailment. He has to spend alot of time visiting the hospital to see her and even more time inside cause she cant play outside wiht him as much as she would like. Im sure he loves his sissy but i can see him starting to be angry with her cause he doesnt understand shes sick. HEs only four and he has learned how to operate her breathing machine. I hate it for him but there isnt anything i can do for it. So I am hoping to find someone who has it in their heart to give two beautiful babies who have struggled their whole live for what little they have a nice christmas it doesnt have to be much but something under that tree on christmas morning would be wonderful. My daughter even stopped asking for things for christmas (nothing she has asked for absolutely nothing she said"i know we dont have the money so just buy Ethan something and that will be good enough for me!") how sad is that that my nine year old has given up hope of having christmas this year? I just hope there is an angel out there that can bless this family this year!!
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God Bless you. I so wish I could help but we are in the same boat. We are behind in house payments, car payments and credit card payments. We have no money for Christmas. My dh is a truck driver and with the economy in the shape it is- there is no freight.
All I can do is pray for you and your family. But go to your local churches many are willing to help.
I know that children do not understand and it tears your heart out to dissapoint them. And remember that you all have one another that is a great gift.
Wow. If I could I would sent them EVERYTHING they wanted. But we like most are in the same boat. We have 3 and pregnant with the 4th. I lost my job in my 4th month of pregnancy and we have been struggling too. Seriously... we have $100 for the whole month... that's food, gas,diapers, everything! So, we aren't going to be able to get our kids anything either. But b/c DH makes too much (but not enough) we can't qualify for any assistance. I would agree with the OP... call your churches (even if you aren't religious) and ask them. You can also do a search on the internet for help. Go to Walmart and ask CS for the number for toys for tots... or call your local news station. I know that if it weren't for grandparents... our kids would be doing without. I am not too worried about it, as I know they will at least have something from other family members, but it breaks my heart that we can't buy for our own children. I mean, we have 2 months til baby gets here and we absolutley have nothing for him..... so please don't feel like you are the only one. There are others out here and you are doing a couragous thing by asking for help.
I am going to look and see if I can find some help for you.. (and me too).
I am going to give my kids a "get out of Jail Free" card. So that they can pick a day and on that day, they can get away with what ever they want.
The St. Vincent DePaul Society which is usually in every Catholic Church will help you pay your utility bills and give you food, which might help you free up some $. (You do not have to be Catholic to get help) Catholic Charities will also help you with food, clothes, & other items.) Your school is probably collecting toys for needy families, check with them. I will keep you in my prayers. You may be able to contact My 2 Front Teeth,org and The Family Giving Tree, which help needy children with toys.(I have no direct knowledge about those last 2 organizations) Good luck and keep praying, God will provide.
Honey I am in the very same boat. Very badly. My son has constant complicationc w/ hypospadias realted issues, asthma, allergies, an anxiety disorder and Ptsd from stuff thats happened to all of us. My daughter is an asthmatic and has emotional problems. Her vision is so poor she can't even see the tv from close up w/out her glasses. We have to pay for allot of the things my kids need. Plus my husband is disabled and in need of constant care and I live off of 500 dollars a month if that... So here's what I am suggesting.
The idea about the churches is a good one. They generally have gift trees outside in the lobbies of the churches. CHeck w/local salvation army gifts for kids you can get allot there. Plus you can get a voucher for thier store and a holiday food basket from them.. Call the Marines. Yes the Marines find out about what it would take to get into Toys for tots if salvation army doesn't pan out. Next is your local WOmen's center. Sometimes they have stores and resources that can help that you could never think of. Local social service out reach programs generally have grants that can help pay for perscriptions. I know it isn't allot but they do pay part of it. Call the drug companies themselves. There are programs for those of us who struggle that can get us low cost or free drugs. Utilize your doctor for samples when things get tight if you can. Now here's something you may not have thought of. APPLY FOR SSI for our daughter. If she truely is having so many complications she will be eligable. This isn't a fast fix but it can help you and this is one of those times that its truely needed. Call your local assistance office and they can help mountains even if your make a dollar too much they can refer you to local organizations that can help.
I know how you feel. Believe me you aren't alone. My kids are okay with it though. Isnt that sad? I will keep you in my prayers and I will do my best to see if there's anything else I can find out. My love and hUGS to you and your family..
I have to say that all of these comments are full of practical advice. I know that it isn't easy living paycheck to paycheck, especially this time of year. I know first hand how tough it can be. Hopefully you can follow some of this advice and it will help you get through this holiday season. Your family is in my prayers. Thank you to all of you who have left such sound advice. My family is in the same boat and it does help to know I am not the only one struggling this christmas. My son said that he figures the economy is affecting santa so he would not ask for much this christmas. Luckily for us we have a big family and so while my dh and I may not be able to do all that I wanted, they will not be left with nothing.
Well, there is one thing I haven't seen mentioned and that is freecycle.org. You should have it in your area and you can find almost new toys for your kids there- it is a wonderful community that really helps people out with everything. Give it a try!! That is what we are doing for our son this year...
Good luck and stay positive!!!
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I would suggest calling your nearby churchs. Many of them collect food and toys for struggling families and you sure do need help. Call toys for tots. Call local Co.s that collect the toys to find out who runs the program. Most malls have the Angel Tree program where kids names and wish list item are listed and shoppers chose an angel and buy the item. Call the mall information #and see who runs this program and how to apply. there are generous people and organizations out there, you just have to locate the organizers to get listed for help. Good Luck!
- candeelady
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