I am just so worried....HELP

[tnt2201]

     I don't know where to start.  Let's give a bit of history.  My son is 14, very smart (if you go by IQ scores), funny, energetic, etc.  He has anger issues just like me. 

     We started seeing a psychiatrist at the begining of this school year to get things under control.  He has finally gotten the temper and impulses under control but now we have a whole other set of issues.  He meet some girl from Florida in an online game site he goes to.  What started out as perfectly innocent has turned into something much worse.  He was staying up all night talking to her on his cell phone and he is now failing every class but one.  I took the phone away and found a bunch of VERY graphic photos of her that she sent.  So, of course, I went nuts!!!  Now he has been grounded and totaly cut off from everything, phone, tv, games, etc.  Her number has been blocked on the cell and the home phone.

     This last Thursday, he gets kicked out of school for calling a teacher a dumbass bitch.  So this weekend was a little less than fun.  Tons of discussing what we were going to do about all this. So on Saturday night at 11:30 my phone rings and wakes me up.  I get up and go out into the hall I imediately smell cigarette smoke.  I am a smoker but I do not smoke in my house.  So not only did he take the phone into his room, he got into my purse and took my cigarettes AND lit up in the house.

     Now today I get a call from the school to tell me that my son told them that his dad took food away from him and told him that when he moved out it would be great because then we would have one less mouth to feed.  This is completely wrong.  I was at home all weekend with my son.  My husband is a hunter and was gone all weekend.  The school also told me that he was thinking about suicide so we could have one less mouth to feed right now.

     I called his psychiatrist and told him about it.  We are going in to see him on Friday.  I just don't know what to do.  Any suggestions?

 

 

 

 

[Kiter]

Dec. 15, 2008 at 3:46 PM

Does you husband ever take him along on hunting trips?

My only suggestion is more Father-Son time.I think I'd have my husband start taking my son on his hunting trips if we in a situation like that.  I think Father-Son time is very  very important- esp at these ages--- and you;d not have to deal with him all on your own on the weekendss...LOL