I caught them red handed!

[kcd78]

so yeah the hubby and i are having some money troubles right now but then again it is the holidays right.  well anyways i went to one of my so called friends house today and I caught her and two of my other girlfriends talking about if i dont leave my husband then they will stopping talking to me. I mean what kinda of mess is that?!?! one of these women came home to find her husband in bed with another GIRL that is 11 years younger than her (making the girl 17 at the time!) and another one of the girls her husband has been cheating her since they said I do! as a matter of fact he just had another child what two months ago.  Both of their husbands are home right now perhaps having dinner at the table with their wives smelling of other women!  Want to know what my husband did? Lose his job. We are broke flat broke and instead of giving me words of comfort those b****** are talking about how much i need to leave him.  I hold my marriage dear to my heart and I am a firm beliver in when we are down we are all down and when we are up then we are all up and there are no in the middle.  we are just down right now. but for richer or poorer right.  I just thoght that your friends are suppose to be there to cry during the bad and laugh their asses off with you in the good. not the other way around.  i mean at the time when i really need support ( i quit smoking a week ago, and I am on a diet trying to lose all this weight) I can't get it.  I mean I only have these three people in my life to talk to and now what do I do now.  I stood behind them with every problem they had and its not like i have asked for donations i just asked for a ear and look what i get a big leave your husband or leave us alone. I am going to stick by my man 7 years we have been together and the Lord's willing we will stay together until death do us part like we said.  i just don't believe how my friends would do me i am so hurt right now!

[mrsnix]

Dec. 18, 2008 at 6:47 PM

Wow.  I am so sorry to hear about that!! Some friends they are! It sounds like you need to make new friends girl! Stand by your husband and forget what those witches think!!

[mamarocks3]

Dec. 18, 2008 at 6:48 PM

They are not friends:( I would just stop answering my phone calls from them and never look back. It is hard to find true friends but they are out there. Im here if you want to chit chat. And I hope you win the lottery:) Keep your head up girl.

[devoll24]

Dec. 18, 2008 at 6:52 PM

So what they married for money of something? That's what it sounds like. I would stick by my man too. You're  doing the right thing. I would kick my hubby to the curb if I found out he was cheating. Especially with some one under age. Are you kidding me. These girl are crazy. You have all of us on Cafemom honey. Don't feel like you're with out friends. Good luck and good wishes. I will be sending some prayers your way in the financial hard times.

 

Merry Christmas.

[halfadozenofem]

Dec. 18, 2008 at 6:54 PM

WOW....with friends like that, who needs enemies, huh?  Sorry you are going through a hard time right now.

[klane24]

Dec. 18, 2008 at 11:22 PM

I am sorry about your so called friends.  I believe that you should be supportive of your friends no matter what and they are not being what friends should be!  I will be praying for you.  Congrats to you for quiting smoking.  I know it must be hard for you right now but there is light at the end of the tunnel!  Keep your head up.  You don't need friends like that.

[CCmom05]

Dec. 18, 2008 at 11:36 PM

perhaps you need to remind them that you took your husband for richer or for poorer. I hope things look up for you.

[kcd78]

Dec. 19, 2008 at 1:47 PM

thank you every body and I am going to keep my head up.  I sat down and i thought about it for a while and came up with this if they are willing to leave me alone for that then they left me a long time ago.  I will just start fresh since I am already making changes in my life this is something else that i can do as well.

(Original Poster)

[tripsmom1]

Dec. 26, 2008 at 2:49 PM

it hurts when you realize a "friend" is not a real friend.  I recently had a friendship end.  At first you miss them because you're used to being with them but after a while your head takes over and you see the person in a different light and see them for what they really are or arent.  Losing one's job is not a reason to get a divorce so your so called friends are shallow and you don't need people like that in your life.  It sounds like you're keeping a good attitude about everything.  You've got support of your friends here.