Should our blogs here not be private between us ladies????

[bipolarmom]

I came to this site so that I could blog about any and everything that is going on in my life whether it be my kids,my man  or just my life in general. My man cannot stand the thought of my blogging without him being able to read them. He even went so far as to make up a name here just so he could see what i was blogging. I cannot say that he liked everything he saw. But that was his own  fault. Sometimes we use this forum to just vent. He has not since come back here that I know of. But everytime he knows I am blogging here he acts like I am slapping him in the face. Am I the only one with this problem? I look at cafemom as my refuge, my safe haven to be able to always speak my mind and the truth. I know I can blog here and most times I have never been judged. With the exception of a few times. But that is ok as well. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. But at least I know that this place is here for me. Am I wrong to keep my blogging private from Tom? Is he right that I am hiding things from him? I do not feel that way at all. I just feel that every woman has a very private side and men just do not need to know everything. Some things are better just blogged and vented. He says that I can talk to starngers easier than I can talk to him. I told him that was the whole point. They are people I do not know personally and I get unbiased responses here. I get honesty here with no worries of hurt feelings and such. Sometimes the things I blog about he is just too close to to be objective. Alot of times they are about my frustrations with our life. We have been together 2 years and he still says he will never get married. I feel I am wasting my time. Marriage may not be important to him but it is to me. these are the types of thiings I cannot talk to him about but can easily blog about here. I guess my point in all this is do you ladies agree that this place is our refuge our safe haven to be able to blog our innermost thoughts and worries. Our problems, with the hopes we will gain advice from other women. Or do you think I am hiding things from him and I should let him read my blogs? I really would like to know what you think and to know if anyone else has come across this problem. As always peace and love to my friends....

Melody

[FoxyLady1313]

Dec. 22, 2008 at 2:48 AM

I wouldn't think to say you were hiding anything from him.  You just need people out side the 'box' to talk to and get advise from.  I just signed up as a member yesterday and I wish I had known about this place before my fience left me.  It would have probably made a differince in how I reacted to some of the things he did.  I'm 3 months pregnant with our second baby and mood swings are getting hard to dill with.  This place seems like a great place to vent and get advise.  I just don't think men really understand.

[bipolarmom]

Dec. 24, 2008 at 2:11 PM

Hi Foxy....and well....welcome to cafe mom........sorry you have had a difficult time of it.......and you are right......men do not understand our need to bond and chat with other women......thanks for the comment and have a wonderful christmas......

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[NotPanicking]

Dec. 24, 2008 at 2:17 PM

Mine has no interest in what's here.  We are both involved in multiple online communities, some together and some individually.  I don't care what he's doing on his radio building message boards, and he has absolutely no interest in conversations I have on Modding the Sims.  This is no different.

Does your husband do anything online himself?  It sounds like he doesn't really get the point of it all.

[javamama84]

Dec. 25, 2008 at 11:59 AM

This is your sounding board.Where you come to vent,rant,rave,journal.

This is YOUR private place.Tom just does'nt get it.

Your NOT wrong Mel....

[bipolarmom]

Dec. 25, 2008 at 12:10 PM

Thanks ladies especially you my dear friend Brooksie....I can always count on you for having the voice of reason i always hear.......Love ya....

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