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Can I uninvite someone?
- Dec 22, 2008 at 11:46 AM
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My dad who I love deeply has a bad habit of doing things without asking first(he will never change he is 76) I am recovering from back surgery and Saturday my parents are coming for Christmas along with my twins from college plus my son Zack is bringing his girlfriend. I have one at home too. I am getting virtually no help with things being my hubby farms and works full time and will probably work till noon that day and my mom doesn't get around good also.so anyway my dad took it upon himself to invite the 85 year old widow of my uncle!! Then gives me the phone to talk to her. She just lost her husband 4 months ago.(he was the husband to my dads desceased sister) I am stressed enough cuz our house isn't that big and I dont' think I even have enough chairs. Should I feel guilty about telling my dad that it probably won't work out for her to come?
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It sounds like you are having a tough time. I can understand the stress of getting everything ready and cooking all of the food while recovering from major sugery. Your dad certainly should asked you first , but it is Christmas and she maybe all alone and still grieving. It is really that big a deal to have one extra person for Dinner? You can serve buffet style and let everyone sit where they like even in the living room on the sofa or eat in shifts.
im with tjcowie ... think if you lost your husband... its hard to be old these days..... welcome her and you dad.. it will all work out... and you will have made this woman feel special and wanted.... Christmas is not about having it perfect or about the food ..it s about kindness... i will bet that you will have many to step up the day of your feast to help you... merry xmas... and may you be happy also....
I agree with the previous posters. I can't imagine turning someone away knowing they will be alone on Christmas. The rejection she would feel would be heartbreaking to me.. It's just one person, and you can make it work. I think it was wonderful of your dad to think of her, and yes - he really should have asked you first.
I guess I should point out she is not alone she does have family there in her town. (Her daughter lives close by) I am having trouble getting around myself with my back fusion.(we already have 9 people here)
i would still keep the invite... ... and say ... hey dad with my back... could you give me a hand with the dinner and all... ..sugar works better ..and i sincerly hope your back is healing....
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It's just one person and she is 85 yrs old...being she just lost her husband 4 mos. ago, this will be a lonely christmas for her....I would say just try to deal with it....the younger kids can sit on the floor!!!
- tjcowie
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