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My Christmas Wish Came True!
- Dec 23, 2008 at 10:46 AM
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I've been going through a long drawn out nasty divorce & custody battle for almost 3 years.
We finally had our final hearing yesterday.
When I
got there it was just me & Carrie. We stopped at the bottom of the
stairs because we could hear John, his mom & dad and their "Private
Investigator" talking, I heard my name mentioned several times. We
stood there for 10-15 minutes listening, they had no idea we were down
below them.
When we
began walking on up I said "sucks to be spied on"...and didn't even
look their way, continued on over and sat down on the other side of the
waiting area.
We
waited for almost 2 hours before we got to go in for the hearing. They
were talking about how they had spied on me and the PI said he didn't
get to get anything the other night when he tried...yeah because
a--hole I caught you! I was standing at the door appx. 11 pm friday
night when I saw a car creeping by, I called Melissa at her grandma's
and she sped off to chase him down! He didn't come back. He didn't get
to spy that night.
Jerk.
The
hearing....was long and my stomach was in knots. My mom testified and
so did John's mom and dad, who both lied through their teeth. I so wish
their "church" could have seen them lie. The PI testified, he had no
photos, or evidence, and my attorney blew him out of the water, he left
as soon as he was finished testifying. He seemed like an a$$ of a man,
typical....typical of John.
When it
all came down here is how it played out....John testified that I was a
horrible mother, kept a nasty house and tried to play off the photos of
his house of when I lived with him, which is untrue. He admitted to
smoking pot, and growing pot! He lied, began stuttering really bad and
my attorney put him in his place. It was proven that he has very little
money, no means of supporting himself, much less 4 children. It was
shown that he is an abuser, he admitted he got nothing out of the anger
management classes he has attended 4x. Typical abuser. He lied about so
many things, but it didn't work for him. Not this time.
Carrie
got so upset during John's dad and John's testimony that she was in the
back crying violently, she began getting angry and saying things so the
2nd time they made her leave the court room. That's my girl! LOL
He
didn't even want Carrie, this hurt her so bad, but in the end it's best
for her I think...I hurt for her that she will never have the daddy she
so desired. She is going to therapy this morning, Melissa is taking her
so I didn't have to miss work.
Ok here's what you are all begging to know...
1. I was awarded full custody of all 4 children.
2. John
will get SUPERVISED custody(oops) VISITATION until Kelsie, who is 6 years old now, turns
age 12. That is 6 years he has to be supervised during his
visitation!!!!!!!
3. Carrie does not ever have to visit him again, I have full custody of her and he has ZERO rights to her.
4. He
has to pay me some of the $60, but not half, they have to calculate it
and figure the amount. I will probably never see a dime of it, but oh
well.
5. I can
claim all 4 children on my taxes, he cannot because he "can't" work,
and even if he does work he cannot claim the children.
His visitation hours are 1st, 3rd, 4th weekends during school year. Sat. 9am - Sun 6pm. No weekday visit.
During summer he gets the same weekends but Sat. 1pm-Sun 6pm.
I think
they may give him a 1 week vacation period during the summer but his
parents have to supervise him at all times for the next 6 years no
matter what.
I got my Christmas wish!
The
moment the judge said I grant your divorce I felt a sense of ....how do
I explain it....well for a moment I looked over at John and then I was
like ok...and then I felt a cold wave of air start at the bottom of my
feet and go up my body and I felt it just lift off of me. It was a
freezing cold feeling. The next thing I knew the cold was replaced by a
warm breeze of ...not air...but it felt like a breeze coming over
me...and down from the top of my head to the tips of my toes. I can't
explain it. I don't understand it, but everything just lifted off of me
and was replaced by something else....
I
thanked my attorney and she hugged me. I told her thank you so much,
you made my christmas. I ran out of the court room and grabbed Carrie
and hugged her and told her it's over!
This
morning the DHS lady called me saying they had 2 new bikes, one for a
boy, one for a girl and a PS2 game for the kids and she would try to
get a few more things, gave me her cell # and told me to meet her in
town this evening.
I am so ....thankful....happy.....and I feel so free.
Thank
EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU for everything you have done for me and my
children. All of your prayers, your encouragement, kind words,
thoughts, candles you've lit....everything....I can't say how much you
all mean to me and my children.
There
are several women in my Moms With Minds group who have gone above and
beyond to see to it that my children got christmas gifts and I want to
tell you all how thankful we are for the gifts you sent. I appreciate
it so much, and you all have helped to give us the best christmas ever.
You will never know how much you all mean to me, and in my eyes, YOU
ARE FAMILY.
I love you all so very much, and I will never forget what you have done for me and my children.
Lara,
Millie, Kate, Jen, I know I may be missing some names...and I apologize
but you know who you are, I love you all. You are the best friends a
girl could ask for.
So it's
over. I know it's not the end, because he will never stop trying to get
me in trouble if he can. But it's the end of a long journey.
And I'm happy, stronger, more confident than I've ever been in my life.
It's the perfect way to end the year and begin anew.
PLEASE VOTE POPULAR SO THAT EVERYONE WHO HAS BEEN PRAYING FOR US, WHO HAS HELPED US CAN SEE THIS JOURNAL. Thank you!
Comments:
Hugs to you & your family....Merry Christmas from my family to yours...
Don't ya love how men like that tend to hang themselves. I am soo glad that this worked out this way for you and your children. God is sooo good and he keeps his hands on those who trust in Him. Let your baby girl know that in God's eyes she is a princess as are you and she can never get the love from an earthly father that God her father loves to pour out upon her..
I'm so glad things worked out for you and your family!
HAPPY DANCE!!!!
I AM SOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU, WHAT A WONDERFUL CHRISTMAS GIFT!!!!!
I am so happy for you and I told you all along,you were doing the right things,good things were going to happen.Unbeknownst to a lot of people,you also kept your faith in God at the end and he made a miracle happen.He usually works in the 11th hour and this time he did.
Merry Christmas!!! So glad you got your wish. Rightfully deserved.
What a wonderful Christmas gift!!
I'm so unbelievably happy for you Julie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Best wishes to you and your family! Now, ENJOY your Christmas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love you girlie!
I am SOOOO happy for you and the kids. John can just go rot for all I care.
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