THIS IS BULL!!!!

[jayceeluv]

Its christmas and besides the little incident w my five year old things are ok i guessed.

we have to go to my aunts house to get the rest of the gifts for the kids later on. the hubby wants to tag along to see his daughter open up her first xmas gifts. told my mom to let them know that he wants to come. its pretty much like this, if they dont want my husband there but want everyone else there it isn't happening. its supposed to be a family gathering he is my family too.

mom tells me that they bluntly said no he cant come me, my mom, and the kids can come, but he cant with no reason mind u. i am furious! this is the one time to redeem yourselves and have everyone over as a family but u acting like this?so i said me and my youngest is not going. my oldest can go get her gifts(not to cause trama w her not getting her gifts) but me my husband and the youngest isn't going. my mom is now pissed at me saying my husband shouldn't be like that, im like my aunt and those stuck up a-holes shouldn't be like that.if this is truely a family gathering my husband should automatically be invited they can take their gifts and shove it. my mom figured it would make it better to get the gifts bring them home re wrap them so he can watch her.dude u soo missed the principals......

i dont know maybe im being irrational but i dont think i am. those people met my husband 1 time 4 yrs ago, i am sick of going to gatherings w out him especially since he is my family. this is bull and its the last time. i can't wait to move back to las vegas and leave all this behind...

any comments will be greatly appreciated

[PurpleDawn]

Dec. 25, 2008 at 1:11 PM

I would not go either.  Why is he not invited?

[jayceeluv]

Dec. 25, 2008 at 1:13 PM

No one knows! they didn't even give a reason. i want to call so bad but i dont want to start this big ass argument over the phone. i already know how the conversation will go my face hurts from getting wisdom teeth removed last sat. so i dont want to even bother

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[jayceeluv]

Dec. 25, 2008 at 1:17 PM

talking to my aunt is like talking to a judgemental wall its not going anywhere. they are those that think they know everything about all when they dont and u cant tell them any different

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[motherbee]

Dec. 25, 2008 at 1:18 PM

Well I hope you have a great christmas regardless of your family being so awful to you.I think you are doing the right thing by telling them that if they can't accept your husband as family than you want no part of the family gatherings.I would think that the holidays would make people less rude and more open minded but sometimes it's completly opposite of that.Just try to focus on the fact that you have a wonderful life with your husband and kids and if the rest of your family can't see that so be it.Best wishes!!!!

[annebeckett]

Dec. 25, 2008 at 1:24 PM

Uhm, yeah.  If your hubs is not wanted you should not go either.  Family really should just swallow their pride or problems and let it be.

I actually invited my kids dad (my ex) over for dinner and he'll be here in a couple of hours.  DO I really want to spend christmas with him?  No, but I can get along with him for the sake of the kids.  Your family should do the same regarding your DH.

[annebeckett]

Dec. 29, 2008 at 4:49 PM

So, I am curious (or nosey)... what happened?  Did you go?  Did dh go with you, or did you have your OWN christmas holiday?

Know what?  It's never too early to start your OWN treaditiions (esp those that don't exclude people).  You know you were right in your stance and I hope you stood up for yourrself and for your dh.  It's YOUR christmas, too, and if you  love the man, they need to get over it!!