a mother's conditional love.

[MythicMMM]

most people I know and talk to regularly know that my mom was emotionally abusive and neglectful towards me. well I have caught myself taking on her additude towards Quintin. which is not something I like. I want to break the cycle.

I've been working on re-training myself, so that when ever Quintin does something that riles me up or irritates me that I don't ignore his existence for an undetermined amount of time like she did.

this has been the proccess so far.

step one: hug him

step two: give him kisses

step three: look into his eyes

step four: tell him "I love you" (and by this point I do actually mean it because whatever I was feeling before step one has melted by step three).

I know I already do those things a lot anyway, but I realized it is just as important to do in those times when I'm not so pleased with him. I just thought I would share what I am trying in case it can help anyone.

[Crashmonster1]

Dec. 28, 2008 at 3:07 PM

That is really awesome.  You will break the cycle if you can stick with your "steps".  As you well know every child deserves to know they are loved and by know I mean they need to hear it feel it and know you mean it.  Good for you take care

[sherriet]

Dec. 28, 2008 at 3:10 PM

Hugs! Good for you!

[Kellyjude1]

Dec. 28, 2008 at 3:36 PM

The good thing is you realize and want to break the cycle.  Keep taking those steps and you will get through this.