Why do you have an issue with my weight?

[bubblycute]

I know that I'm overweight and I know that I'm thick and wear clothes that are in the double digits. I know the reflection that I see in the mirror isn't what everyone would hold up to a beautiful standard. Still I feel confident and sexy, and I feel like at my thickness I can still turn some heads and pull in attractive guys. While I did until my weight issue became your issue too.

Can someone please tell me why my weight should be of concern to anyone but me. Why is it a source of critic no matter what I do. Why can I not sit on my own couch and chose to have a small bite size piece of candy without you pointing out how fat I already am or that I ate dinner already? Why is it that you have to point out how you think my brand new xmas clothes will fit me before I even have a chance to try them on?

I'm told that these hurtful words and constant demeaning comments on my weight are said to make her feel better about herself, yet still I'm starting to develop an issue with my weight where there never was an issue before. I shouldn't have to think I need to hide to eat  a snack, I shouldn't be ashamed of wanting a soda instead of water. I should be allowed to be comfortable in my body without some petty and mean b*&ch putting me down all the time. I'm not fat I'm thick and I don't look bad, but I'm made to feel that I might as well be sitting here and typing this journal at 290 lbs.

So it brings me back to my original question why is my weight your issue? Why do you feel the need to comment and mention it every five seconds. While I might be thick I still offer the whole package, I'm sweet and I'm nice and I'm kind and caring so who cares that I'm not a size three what does it matter to you? How does it hurt your life?

[kroshka]

Jan. 3, 2009 at 4:18 AM

hi,

your question is not directed at me as I usually am completely oblivious to anything that's going on outside of my little world. Yeah, Iive in a bubble and often don't pay attention to what's going on around me.

But I can tell you that some people may be concerned for you wellbeing. Some may have self esteem issues and by making a judgment towards you, they for a second feel better about their own problems. Some people are just shallow and some are dumb. Pick whichever category you like....the people you are referring to probably belong to one of them.

Now, having said that---you have to realize that their opinions are irrelevant. Don't let anyone else influence your mood, actions, and judgments. They can be as cruel or as indifferent as they please. You, on the other hand, should know that you are a great individual and you curves are just that: YOUR curves. And if it, for whatever reason, bothers someone, they should seek counseling about their insecurities. Not you.

Don't let others affect you in any way. They have no say.