I feel so broken & lost

[burch731]

Well my husband & I have been seperated for the past 4 1/2 months but for the past month we have been trying to work on things & I have been so inredibly happy ~ I'm very much in love with him & we have 4 kids & 10 years together & today he decided to tell me that he's done trying again ~ I am so completely heartbroken & upset & I just don't know what to do.   I feel like I've been hit by a train & I just can't figure out what to do ~ I've had the same advice given to me over & over again but it doesn't help & it isn't making anything better.   And what few people I do actually have around in real life just like to say "I told you so"  I just feel so broken & lost!!!

[exasperated29]

Jan. 3, 2009 at 11:33 PM

[momofZandE]

Jan. 3, 2009 at 11:50 PM

I can imagine what you are going through... My husband and I have been married for 10 years, together 14, 2 beautiful children. And I find out that I have failed him financially and sexually for the past 10 years. WOW...what a blow to the heart. He said that he isnt leaving but cant guarentee that his feeling will change. I dont know which one would be worse, yes I do. But you can understand my frustration.

I dont have any solid advice, it sucks when your the only one that wants to work things out. Just keep your kids in your heart right now. Although thats where I have apparently screwed things up with my husband. I put the children before him and he feels abandoned...thats how I was raised though.

Did you guys try counseling or was he not even willing to do that?