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Political Correctness...has it gone too far?...
- Jan 10, 2009 at 7:37 PM
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I have had enough!
After nearly a year of sitting on these thoughts the bottom of my chair just exploded and the words are coming whether ya like em or not. LOL
This will not be pretty or for the weak of heart...so if ya faint easily....sit down. Or hit the 'back' button now! LOL
I enjoy this site...most of the time...LOL
Today, I was reading some questions. When I came across a question that went something like this..
Is it ok for my 14 year old daughter to go out on a date with someone she met on the internet?
Are you freakin kidding me?
My mind exploded ! Seriously ! I have had a headache ever since I read this. LOL
How did a person, a mother, ever think for a moment that this would be ok .?
I have seen alot on here...this is really just the straw which broke that poor camels back. Soooo this rant is not directed at this mother nor her question. This issue has been brewing in my heart for a very long time.
We are a nation of inept mothers and fathers who do not choose right or wrong....
There is no choice, because some don't even know right from wrong.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why?
My conclusion is this
Political Correctness!
And trying to be our childrens 'friends' instead of parents.
We have become so politically correct that we fear pointing out wrong behaviors....because we may be seen as judgemental, harsh or not well received.
Do you see that as neglectful and a bit bass ackwards!???
We don't offer advice that would help someone direct their lives in a healthy way because it isn't right to do so? What?
The majority of Questions like this one receive the 'correctness' answers of "do what ya like", "it's your life." or ..".not my business. "
Well, let me tell ya something....
()**Warning...rant is getting heated.
Picture me on soap box...
We are responsible to each other.
Not to judge, but to help, advise and guide. There is a difference between offering someone a word of advice and judgement. The difference is.... intent.
If you intend to hurt this person by putting them down, or shaming them...then don't say a word. But if your words come from the heart and are intended to help someone...it is your responsibility to give them that gift.
It may not be well received....no one wants to be told that they are doing something wrong. Hopefully..they will ponder your words and see that they speak wisdom.
Teenagers and young adults are notorious for not wanting advice, talking trash to those who offer it and even striking back...but soooo what. As adults...responsible adults and parents...it is our duty...our obligation!
....and teenagers are not the only ones who refuse good, well intended advice. Many 'adults' will bite back and ...hard. LOL
Despite their best efforts to get in our way...We must help those who don't know where they are going ...if we have already been there and traveled those roads. Many Many of our fellow moms are lost. Many would never admit it and don't even believe it themselves. The ones' that argue the point the hardest are the most lost of all.
I too am lost on many topics. I have learned to ask for advice and help. When i receive one of these 'polite' answers...frankly, it annoys me. I want an opinion. It doesn't mean that I will take the advice ...but I will mull it over.
Maybe the ability to accept that we don't know everything comes with age....I don't know. I have met some very knowledgeable moms of every age. Older moms and younger moms...we all have some experiences to share!
All of us are ignorant about something.
On other topics we have been there and done that sooo...
We must reach out....if others don't take the advice or help...so be it. But we have tried.
Back to the 14 year old girl. Isn't it our obligation to tell this mother that a 14 year old does not have the maturity to date. Isn't it our obligation to protect this child when the mother clearly doesn't know the dangers of dating on the internet. You may say "no"! But...it is !
We are all interconnected. We are all very much the same. We need to help others and do this for a better society. No...I am not a 'flower child' nor do I believe that my way is the only way or even the right way...What I am proposing is giving others information. We must give options instead of answers like 'it's your life!" If I had heard that as a teenager, God only knows where I would be.
Tell others what worked or didn't work in your life. Help them to avoid your mistakes.
You may say..'this is non of my business'. Ok....How about when this 14 year old girl in question, becomes pregnant and goes on public assistance. Your pay check is now supporting this decision. It's your problem now!
Or worse....How about when this 14 year old is abducted and killed.... Still none of your business?
We need to give advice...kind advice to others. We need to make it our business. It is. We are all connected.
I don't claim to know all of the answers...heck..I am still learning the questions,~! LOL But....I know this....we need to look past the attitudes ...the bad attitudes of some....and offer our 2 cents anyway!
When I was 18, I made some bad decisions...my aunt let me know it. I loved her, but at this moment...I wanted to bitch slap her. Now ... I have grown up and I see that this 'judgement' came from love and concern and was exactly the tough love that I needed to hear.
So what if the person gets pissed and reads ya the riot act. Hopefully...some of the well intended advice will sink in. At least you have shared your opinion of what is right and what is wrong. Who knows...maybe my advice is wrong and your advice is wrong ...let them decide. At Least they know the options.
Wouldn't it be great to have a rule bookto refer to? The book would state...This decision is right and this decision is wrong. Unfortunetly we don't have one...we only have each other.
Political Correctness has caused a nation to keep closed mouthed in too many matters and the price has been losing our morals and values.
Soooo....I challenge you....Reach out, in love and state an opinion. Give some hard advice. Hopefully...you will change a life....for the better!
Ok...rant over! LOL
Comments:
beautiful! I said something on the matter of political correctness today and how things are shoved down our kids throats. I am sooooo sick of it!
Amen and Right On!!!
I read most of your post but didnt have a lot of time to read the rest but I agree with you 100%. I will not be my daughters friend I am ready for her to hate me lol. As long as she is safe then I am alright with that.
I am 110% with you on this!!!!!
wow I have seen some ? on here but that takes the cake,,,and yep I agree with you also..I speak my mind and if it offends you or isnt the cool thing to say hit delete....
I'm going to argue that the older folk are JUST as liable to reject advice and the younger ones, especially, god forbid, someone younger than them offers advice.
I agree with you. I think it's ridiculous that the IDEA that someone might have a good suggestion, or might have a little more information than you on a topic is somehow rude or judgemental is just f**king ridiculous. Worst of all is when people tell you to "mind your own business" or "why do you care what someone else does?" and it's such a dumb comment. People care what other people do because we share this planet with you. Your treatment of your child affects our population, affects the person he'll be when he's older, if you're on government aid for medical bills it affects our taxes, and if effects our empathy and hearts. So really, forgive me if I care a little bit about people I don't know and have never met. Here I thought that was an ADMIRABLE trait.
I couldn't agree with you more!
Thank you for putting my thoughts into words. You rock!
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I agree with you 100%. I'm sorry but I refuse to be politically correct, I would rather be honest and if I offend someone then so be it. As far as parents being their child's friend, they have enough friends they need someone to parent them.
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