If he wanted a freaking maid than he should have paid for one

[elananme]

I am so sick of having the same argument with m yhusband.  He thinks the only thing i should be allowed to do during the day is clean for the entire eight hours that he is at work.  which i dont have eight hours its a 45 minute drive to and from taking him to work so i spend 3 hours (1 1/2 in the morning and 1 1/2 in the afternoon) a day on the road cause i pick him up and take him to work. then i spend and hour getting my daughter fed and ready for school so now i am down to four hours.  I spend no more than an hour on meals and learning activities with my son to try to get him ready for school in august.  so now i am down to three hours.  3 hours to wash three-five loads of clothes wash dry and fold and put away, clean the lvign room including dusting sweeping and vacuuming the carpet wash dry put away dishes, sweep scrub and mop the floor scrub the counters and stove top, bleach the dishdrainer, clean and scrub every surface in the bathroom including the toilet and fixtures.  clean the kids room, including vacuuming and dusting, clean the hallway and dust every other surface in our house, also clean the ferrets cage every other day and wash teh dog twice a week.  this all before he gets home from work at two thirty in the afternoon (or 315 once we actually get home from picking him up) and i get up at four to make sure he has clothesto wear food to eat for lunch cook him breakfast make sure he has all his tools and paperwork for work as well as proper outerwear (coats, hat, gloves etc) and a towel for his shower  how the f***am i supposed to do all that in 3 hours cause i am not allowed to clean once he gets home because that is family time I am able to be on now cause he is next door at his mothers for something.  I am not a maid and yes i am a stay at home mom but i dont beleive that my every waking hour should be cleaning, somedays i sew but here lately its only been projects he has asked for if i make anything else he gets mad saying i waste time on that but when he needs a project its the utmost importance.  The only "chore" i can do in the evenings is wash or dry clothes, i cant fold or put them away cause that cuts into family time.  so what am i good for then if all i am supposed to do is clean?  why dont i get to have a life? just a little free time to do what i want once in awhile, i am not the only person living here why the hell should i be the only one cleaning it? what do you ladies think, and please be nice?

[Candy79]

Jan. 13, 2009 at 7:57 PM

I agree and my hubby did that to me today and came home later with a puppy face to say sorry.

[Butterflybabies]

Jan. 13, 2009 at 9:43 PM

Go on strike.

[italianhotmama2]

Jan. 14, 2009 at 8:25 PM

I agree my husband is the same way I do the same thing that you do.

Sometimes I feeling like telling you stay home ans I'll go to work and we will see how much work he gets

done.

[WhiteCamille]

Jul. 2, 2009 at 11:48 AM

What would you like to do? If you weren't a SAHM what would you be doing right now? You mentioned that your son is starting school in August? When your kiddos are in school what is the one thing that would fulfill you? Away from home and family. Every mom needs their own thing to be satisfied and happy. You make yourself happy, no one else. When you get there your home life won't seem so terrible and hubby will have a force to reckon with!

[Dana42]

Jan. 18, 2010 at 12:04 PM

Sounds similiar to my hubby. I don't clean all day everyday. One time I got a wild hair and cleaned all day and aired the house out and it was beautiful. He came home and said ,What did you do all day?I had to contain myself not to choke him.