Lies Women Believe about Marriage

[KrantzKlan]

This is has changed me forever. Our marriage is so much more because of what God is teaching us every day. I hope it helps you in anything you may be struggling with. It is all obtained from a book called " Lies women believe" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. I will do this as I have it come to me and through all my underlines. I am praying God will lead me through this. So if things seem off to you don't worry. Just go buy the book. Lies women believe about.....marriage. 21. "I have to have a husband to be happy" This is a lie. The truth is that marriage is good and right, that it is God's plan for most people, and that there can be great joy and blessing in the context of a God-centered marriage. Satan twists the truth about marriage by suggesting to women that the purpose of marriage is personal happiness and fulfillment, and that they cannot be truly happy without a husband to love them and meet their needs."" The truth is that the ultimate purpose of marriage is not to make us happy, but to glorify God. " If you think your husband should make you happy your in bondage. "Women who believe they have to have a husband to be happy often settle for less than the best that God intended to give them."True happiness can only be found in Christ"! "The truth is that God has promised to give us everything we need, and if He knows a husband would make is possible for us to bring greater glory to Him, then he will provide a husband." The truth is that contentment is not found in having everything we think we want but in choosing to be satisfied with what God has already given us". 22. " It's my responsibility to change my mate" Pray to change your heart not his. Women feel, if something is wrong we have to fix it. Wrong. "When a wife is trying to fix her husbands faults and flaws she takes on responsibility God never intended her to have." "Further, it places her focus on someone else's failures and needs- which she may be able to do very little about, if anything." " She may also limit God from doing what He wants to do in changing her husband." Let God take over the process." The first weapon is a godly life. Which God often uses in a man's life to create conviction and spiritual hunger, 1 Peter 3:1-4" " The second weapon is prayer." " When a wife takes her concerns to the Lord, she is appealing to a higher power to act in her husband's life- and it's a lot harder for a man to resist God than to resist a nagging wife." You should pray forever and wait forever and constantly no matter how long it takes, if even for 16 years. A wife who learns how to pray for her husband is a wife that loves God. 23. "My husband is supposed to serve me" (This study did a great deal of teaching to me. I know now that my place is to serve my husband and not want him to help out around the house. He provides and guides our family to be centered to God, my job is to serve him and maintain the home and raise and nurture children, this is my personal belief and feeling and I have found great joy in doing so.) " There is no higher calling than to be a servant." " The truth is that God did not make the men to be a helper to the woman. He made the woman to be a helper to the man." "This does not mean that men are not meant to serve his wife and children. If men are to love their wives as Christ loved the church, there must be the willingness to lay down their lives and become servants, ever as Christ did for His bride , (the church). " Proverbs 31. " The truth is that we are never more like Jesus then we are are serving others or Him. 24. If I submit to my husband, I'll be miserable. Submitting includes doing what he says even if you don't agree. Other wise, God wouldn't have put him as the head of the house. "When it comes to submission, the concept of a wife's submitting to her husbands authority is particularly objectionable to many women. including those in our evangelical churches." Submission does not make you less valuable." Galations 3:28 and 1 Peter 3:7. Husbands are commanded to love their wives selflessly. Ephesians 5:25-29. Pour out your heart to your husband and then back off. A way to your husband is not through pleadings but through submission. Submit to all authority. Proverbs 21:1." " 1 Peter 3:1-2; A wife's submission to her husband makes room for God to work in his heart and bring him to obedience. A submissive heart attitude produces in a woman the most radiant and lasting kid of beauty". Submission is about LOVE! Submission is a reflection of a woman's redemption. "A true woman is not afraid to place herself in submission." 25. " If my husband is passive, I've got to take the initiative or nothing will get done." Encourage you husband no matter what, stop worrying about the passiveness. Just obey your husband. "Women look to for affirmation and encouragement correct them or tell them how they could have done it better." " We cant insist on running the show and then expect men to be proactive, take initiative , and be spiritual leaders. " " He wont go to work-If he gets hungry he will work; you feel you have to take charge of the finances because he is irresponsible with money--he may go bankrupt, but that may be exactly what it takes for God to get his attention and change his character." " You must be willing to let him fail-- believing that ultimately, your security is not in your husband but in a sovereign God who is not going to fail you." Psalm 27:14 " Wait on the Lord, be of good courage and he shall strengthen your heart; wait, I say on the lord". " 26. " Sometimes divorce is a better option than staying in a bad marriage." "Marriage is hard and good marriages are even harder." Every divorce in an attack on the character of God and on the earthly picture of divine redemption." "Some wives are more interested in getting her problems solved and her needs met than in the process of restoration and sanctification--in her life, as well as her husband's life. She does not have a vision for how God could use her as an instrument of grace in her husband's life-- or she is unwilling to pay the price to be that instrument." "She is not exercising faith in the supernatural power of God to transform her and her husband and this marriage into something of great beauty and worth. In wanting to bail out of the marriage, she is elevating her personal happiness and well-being about what God has to say about the permanence of marriage vows and the seriousness of breaking those vows." " The Truth is ::: 1) There is no Marriage that God cannot heal and no person he cannot change. 2) The primary reason for marriage is not to be happy, but to glorify God and reflect His covenant love. 3) God uses the rough edges of each partner to conform the other to the image of Christ. Your mates weakness can become a tool in God's hand to make you into the women he created you to be. 4) True love is God's love. God can love any one through us, if we are willing to let Him. Love is not a feeling it is a commitment to act in the best interest in another, even if we don't have warm feelings towards that person. 5) Marriage is a covenant. God is a covenant keeping God. God kept His covenant even when the Israel was sinning and committing spiritual adultery (Jeremiah 11:10, Ezekiel 20:16, Hosea 2:13) It is never right to break a marriage covenant that was intended to be a picture of redemptive relationship between God and his people. " ( with this I have a strong feeling that I do believe that, but I also believe that if abuse is involved you need to get out) 6) God has commanded us to forgive without limit. 7) Faithfulness to extend love may mean he will spiritually heal ( 1 Peter 2:24-25, 1 Cor. 7:12-14) 8) You can't solve your problems by putting another pair of shoes under the bed . (going to another man) 9) Gods grace is sufficient to enable you to be faithful to your mate and to love and forgive without limit. 10) God will never forsake you no matter what you have to endure ( just always turn you him) 11) Faithfulness will be rewarded " "Forgiveness is the only way to receive God's best!." "A Woman's story "::: "-My husband wronged me- -I filed for divorce- - I received a note from a friend whose wife had died and it said " Humble yourself."- - I did so, unwillingly and unhappily- - The more I humbled myself and sought to love my husband the more he became a wonderful man of God ( the more you pray for love for your husband the more love comes freely- - I became proud to be his wife and enjoyed it!- - God restored all aspects of our marriage beyond what we ever dreamed - -On December 26th- we prayed together and embraced. I kissed him good-bye. One hour later he was dead.- - God gave me a gift of no regret. As hard as it is to live without him, it is easy because there is no regret- - Don't waste precious time receiving Gods best for your life. Humble yourself. Give your husband room, and time to be God's man. It takes time and sacrifice, but the blessing is amazing!- " Again, please understand this is all my very own personal learning from the book which is in quotation marks and my own thoughts which are not in quotation marks. This is not a "telling you what to do or what you should do". This is not a pointing out wrongs. This is just like if I were to right you a letter of all I have learned and my personal feelings about it. Please don't hold it against me if you find it offensive. I never mean it to be so and I don't wish to hurt any one in any shape, form, or fashion. If this offends you please please just delete it and remember that I mean no harm to any one at all and I can promise that from the bottom of my heart. Again, this is my PERSONAL LEARNING AND INSIGHT FROM THE BOOK AND WHAT I HAVE DECIDED TO PLACE IN MY LIFE TO BETTER A MARRAIGE BETWEEN DAVE AND ME AND OUR WALK WITH GOD. Sincerely, Maggie

[isabellalecour]

Jan. 14, 2009 at 1:46 PM

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