It's a new dawn, it's a new day.

[MamaKB2]

We had the talk last night, or I guess rather....I had the talk.  He was completely shut down by all of it, he didn't want to talk about it or even acknowledge it for that matter.  I got out what I needed to say.  I told him how much his drinking was hurting me, I told him how it was severely impacting our relationship, I told him how if things didn't change that I would take the steps to separate even though it pained me to do so.  I let him know that I loved him more than anything and that I didn't want to lose him to an addiction.

He said he didn't want to talk about it.  He said he was just trying to forget it.  I trie dto tell him that not talking about it means that he's just bottling it up and letting it fester until he's had enough and has his next drink.  He said he didn't want to talk about it.

He did not, however, drink last night.  It may not be a big milestone, but 2 nights sober is a big one to me.  I know that he will not be completely sober, but the fact that he's even remotely trying right now has my hopes up.  Drinking is around him all of the time.  From his coworkers to TV to my dad to when we go to dinner with my sister and her boyfriend.  It's everywhere and he doesn't know how to handle it.

We talked about going to see a counselor, and he said that he wanted to try and do it on his own first - REALLY try to do it on his own first.  If that fails, and he regresses back to getting drunk every other night....he'll make an appointment. 

It's the first step.  It's a new day.

Thank you all for your support and your encouraging words.  I don't want to give up on him, but if he does regress and get back to that spot...then I know what I have to do - not just for me, but for two little boys who mean the world to me.  Again, thank you for your support.

[mbee]

Jan. 15, 2009 at 11:23 AM Good luck, Kat. I hope that he can do it on his own.

[mandy_lynn]

Jan. 15, 2009 at 11:29 AM

Good luck Kat! I come from a family of alcoholics, and the only one who ever quit was my dad. He changed his life around, and I hope that Tyler can do the same for your family.

[eringoode]

Jan. 15, 2009 at 11:56 AM

I thought about you all night last night.  I can tell how truly hurt you are and that makes me hurt.  I'm glad you had the courage to have "the talk" and I really hope he tries to quit.  Hopefully he'll realize that you and the boys are far too important to lose over whiskey.

Love ya!

[navyjen]

Jan. 15, 2009 at 12:38 PM

1 day at a time.   And he has made it 2.  That is progress.   Way to go and good for you for talking with him.    I think not drinking 2 days in a row in my drinking days would have been a miracle and only would have happened if I was still hungover from my last binge.....  Hugs I am proud of you.

[Rachelle11503]

Jan. 15, 2009 at 7:42 PM

Aw Kat, well i'm glad that you two are making progress. Make sure he knows that you'll be just as proud of him if he quits with help than if he quits by himself. There are not many that can do it on their own, but my grandpa did, so I guess it is definitley possible.