Commentary and Actions That I Hate Involving Pregnancy

[redlily08]

Some of this I have already ran into this pregnancy, some of it is from being pregnant with my daughter, and some of it is from related experiences from other woman.

Nausea - Not every women gets it, quit assuming I must have it. Hunger pangs are not the same as nausea, for the record. Additionally, being pregnant does not make a women immune to germs and viruses. It is perfectly possible that some puking is caused by fighting off real sickness, not just the body responding to normal hormones.

Cravings - Again, not every woman. I have ALWAYS been a person that if I remember something being delicious, I will want to try it again. Being pregnant does not change a thing and being pregnant does not making remembering good foods special and different from doing it any other time.

Pickles - yes I eat them, no it has nothing to do with pregnant - I ate them BEFORE being pregnant. Besides which, talking about pregnant women eating pickles shows a certain level of ignorance. Pickles have the association because it was recommended that a woman drop a jar to hide the fact her waters broke...which is poor advice to start with.

Gender - next person to tell me what I'm having is going to be in serious trouble. I know what I'm having if anyone does, I do not need someone else to tell me based on unproven anecdotal BS. It's only fun for parents to do the guessing game, not to have someone else do it for them (unless specifically invited to the fun). It is also only my business to decide who should know what I'm having. (I also happen to be a person that dislikes disclosing my child's name to random strangers - why do THEY need to know?)

Nesting - I may be tired during pregnancy, but liking a clean living area is something that persists INTO pregnancy, not something that starts at conception. Someone has to keep the living area clean and if the partner is all too inclined to wait till something can't be avoided anymore, guess who that leaves to do it. I don't want to be sick and a unkept house is a good way to not avoid being sick. Regardless of if I am pregnant or not.

Belly Touching - consider this fair forewarning, attempting to touch my belly will result into your arm forcefully being pushed away. There is several layers of skin, fat, and organ lying between the outside world and the baby. Over 90% of that tissue barrier is MINE and to touch MY body is to be in MY space and VERY rude. ONLY my husband is allowed to touch at will and I retain the right to withdraw the invitation at any time. Ask first and if the answer is no, shut up and keep your hands to yourself.

Being Pregnant Again - anybody who asks me about how I am pregnant again will be offered the options of either a demonstration or a smart-ass comment regarding the need for sex ed in school. My sex life is between me and my husband and our choice to allow conception is deeply connested to our sex life.

Birthing choices - I am the mom, this is my baby, I am capable of deciding what is best for BOTH of us. If I didn't clearly give you an invitation to add input or be present, don't try to push YOUR preferences on us. Saying "we are expecting" is NOT permission! I am capable of doing my research and unlike some people around me, I actually do it instead of believing every opinion I hear. I don't care if people advise moms to just smile and sort, how the hell are people supposed to learn they're being rude if you don't tell them?

** Maybe I'm ornery, actually I know I am, but I wouldn't be if I didn't need to be. I'm tired of dealing with people that need manuals to use their brain. There is no such thing as "common" sense, only "proper" sense. **