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When Did I Go Back to Jr. High?
- Jan 17, 2009 at 10:20 AM
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I'm going to my mom's in St. Louis this weekend, which is about a 45 minute drive from my hometown where most of my friends from high school still live. Well, my best friend.. we'll call her Jane... already had plans to see a movie with another friend.... we'll call her Dee... and so they invited me along. Great! Well, then another girl.. we'll call her Tracy.. that we used to know from school messaged me on Myspace to see if we wanted to do something together. I told her about my plans to go see a movie and she said. "You mean like all of us? That's cool. I'll have to find a sitter though." Ok.. great! A weekend with the girls. :) Yeah!
Then the drama starts. I get a text from Jane saying that Tracy was trying to change the plans to staying at Dee's house playing Wii. Jane is obviously pissed because she wanted to actually GO OUT somewhere.. and so did I! So Jane tells Tracy that she'd rather go out somewhere. Tracy retailates with "Well, why can't we do something that EVERYONE can afford?" Wait.. who's "everyone"? The only person who suddenly can't afford to see a movie is her. Then I find out that Dee actually offered to pay for part of the cost so she could still go out with us, which was a really nice gesture on Dee's part, but I really don't think it was right of Tracy to ask to go somewhere and then expect us to stay at someone's house playing video games when we already had plans.
Then later last night I was talking to Jane on the phone and I find out that Dee no longer wants to go to the movies and just wants to go out to eat. Ok.. that's fine. I suggest that Jane and I still go along with our original plans and see a movie together and meet the other two afterwards. Dee has had some major emotional problems lately (if you know about my friend's suicide.. Dee is her twin.. and Dee had an abortion the year before her sister's death). She's been pushing away anyone that reminds her of her sister and clinging to her boyfriend (the baby's father). It's really upsetting for me and Jane to see her go through this and hurt our friendship in the process, but we understand it.
Jane thinks that Dee will back out at the last minute but says that another friend of ours will probably still want to go out to eat with us after she gets off work... so things will work out and I WILL have my night out DAMMIT!
What's really upsetting to me is that before we invited Tracy to go with us.. the plans were fine. We had no issues.. we had the movie picked out and dinner plans, but all of a sudden a girl that neither Jane nor I were ever really friends with decides she has the right to change those plans! I'm pretty upset that I was so close to actually getting Dee to go out instead of mopping around her house or being attached to her boyfriend's hip. :(
Our plans are set now... we're going to see Yes Man and then go out to eat. I'm not sure what to do about this situation that's arised though. What do I do the next time Tracy wants to make plans? I'm afraid she'll pull this same crap again!
Thanks for letting me rant.. lol
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See thats why most of my friends are guys! I just tell them what to do and they do it! LOL
I hope you have a smooth and drama free weekend. :)
For Dee: it's understandable for her to back out of plans
Next time do not back down on your plans, don't negotiate. Your original plans were with the first 2 girls & the 3rd girl came in after the plans were made. The 3rd girl had no right to change plans without speaking to everyone first, finding out her options (& if anyone would offer anything like they did), & if an agreement can't be reached then she should back out. Or at least that's how an adult should handle it. Unforntunately lots of people are still in the "high school" mind set & expect to get their way when & how they want it.
Good luck next time.
I wish you a drama free wkend! with no jr. high action!lol
I agree with what Heather said.
okay here's what you do next time (if there IS a next time)
Tracy calls and asks if she can go too. you tell her straight out "Look, this is what we're doing. If you want to join us, fine, but our plans are already set. If you can't afford it, and would rather do something else, we'll make plans for next weekend. But we already have plans set out."
If she has a fit, then you tell her "Okay then, don't ask to come again." and you don't have time to deal with her high school pettiness. simple enough. if she can't pull on the grown up panties then she definitely don't need to be hanging out with you chica! LOL
If it were me I'd probably keep any plans I made with the other ladies under wraps and away from Tracy's ears! I agree with you that it seems Dee needs to get out and try to remember how it is to actually live life! Have fun with Jane and enjoy the time away.
Wish I were going with you!
I agree with Jordanplustwo
That whole situation would annoy the CRAP out of me, it seems as if you handled it with grace, I would probably have gone off on her.
Much love
Alex
No more Jr high for you. I hope the rest of your weekend is less annoying.
Sorry you have to deal with drama when all you're looking for is a night out!! I agree with Alwaysacarnie, next time don't even bother telling Tracy what you're doing. Just say you're not sure. Then if you decide to invite her, invite her last minute (like right before you go out) so she doesn't have time to change your plans but doesn't feel slighted if she finds out you went out.
I'm sorry about your friend Dee. That's a terrible situation, I really feel for her. Maybe if you have ome extra time while you're visiting you could spend it with her.
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I read the whole thing...and that would be so annoying! I'm sorry about your friend Dee.
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