I am ready to divorce my siblings

[Lyndall]

I am so angry right now.   On Oct 31 I was in a horrible assident my son died my daughter spent 45 days in the hospital and is brain damaged.  how much she will regain is unknown for now she is a 4 year old in a 8 year old body.  I broke my upper left arm and needed surgery to repait it.  broke my neck ans was placed in a collar and had 3 broken ribs.  later they found a large dead area on my head that had to be removed and a second break in my arm.  the second break wasn't casted because they said it had already started to heal and their was no point.

Until the time of the accident I was the primary caregiver for my parents.  I drove them everywhere and handled bill taxes and everything.

I am unable to drive now.  I can not turn my neck.  my arm has very limited mobility.  can't hold a pot to cook or fasten my seatbelt. 

My sister called me to tell me she was sick of me whining about my injuries I should be driving and helping mom more.  I stopped wearing my neck brace because it gives me a rash she thinks I should be able to drive. 

My mother dosen't drive.  her car is at my place and I am letting the people who help me use it since mine was destroyed in the crash.  I knew mom needed help ao I got one couple who said they would drive her anywhere if she just called.  another girl offered to drive her to see dad in the nursing home every afternoon   another lady checks with her once a week to shop for her.  But I am being blasted because it isn't their responsibility to help my mom I should do it.  My sister lives a state away and accused me of using my mom to get her car.  leaving mom to fend for herself while so many are willing to help me and that I am playing up my injuries to get sympathy

I cried so hard after talking to her.  I can't believe she is feeling like this so what do you think should I be all better and driving and running errands or should I follow my doctors  orders which are no driving no lifting over 10 lbs, no bending no twisting.

[exasperated29]

Jan. 19, 2009 at 12:38 AM

I am sorry she (your sister) is acting like this sweetie, she needs to learn to carry some of her own weight in helping out with your parents that should not be put on you.  My aunt and uncle used to pull this BS with my parents when it came to helping out with my grandma.  I am also very sorry for your loss.  My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

[christianmom55]

Jan. 19, 2009 at 1:48 AM

Your sister sounds bossy & mean.  You should do what the doctors say regarding your injuries.  Your sister should be thankful that you have gotten so many people to help your mom  I think that is amazing.  I will add your sister my pray list for you & your family.  So is your daughter out of the coma?  How is dh doing?

[Kellyjude1]

Jan. 19, 2009 at 7:25 AM

 Please don't worry over what your sister is saying.  Take this time to focus on your injuries and getting yourself better, so that you can get strong again.  I am so sorry for all this is going on with you and your family.  I hope and I will pray you get through this emtional time in your life.  If your sister thinks she can take care of your mother better then let her.  You seemed to have been there for your mom all along.  Even with all that you have going on, you still manage to have others help out which is wonderful.  You stay strong and know you are doing all you can, and that is all that matters.

[sugareemama]

Jan. 19, 2009 at 8:57 AM

I'm so sorry that she acting like a big spoiled brat.  Try to brush her off as much as you can and just do what you need to do for yourself, your family and your parents.  Sometimes family isn't who we're related to, but who we find on our journey.

 

[Deb_Jones]

Jan. 22, 2009 at 6:25 AM

So sorry, sweetie. Just try and ignore her and pray that God will touch her heart with the truth. She needs to have her eyes opened.

[Kat2747]

Jan. 22, 2009 at 4:16 PM

I think you should do as your Dr's tell you and try not to let people like that get to you too much. I wish you the best. Take care

[MUDDERING]

Jan. 26, 2009 at 1:51 AM

do as your Doctor orders you to do and don't listen to your sister.  It's obvious that her life only revolves around herself and doesn't include the rest of your family.  That's too bad.  But you have a family to take care of besides yourself.  And if you don't take care of yourself you can't help your family.  Prayers for you and your family.

[Trackwidow]

Jan. 26, 2009 at 9:16 AM

I agree with the others. Your sister has no clue about what is going on in your life and honestly doesn't seem to care. Listen to your doctor and not her. You need to get stronger before you can take care of everyone else. If you end up back in the hospital because of all of this, then what will happen?

[1flychic]

Jan. 26, 2009 at 1:08 PM

ROFLMAO!

[SanDiegoMaxMom]

Feb. 10, 2009 at 1:35 AM

Seriously...what the h#ck  is her problem????  Take care of yourself, you kids and your husband...then you can worry about what others need or think.  Sorry she's such a meanie!!!!  ~~~{{{HUGS}}}~~~