She desperately needs help!!

[POMMOM335]

A friend of mine came to my house and said she is leaving her husband. They have been married since 2000. In that time he has been controlling in every way. Now he is using DRUGS around her  children. They have four children from 2-9 and they told their mom about the drugs. They told her that he had a scale and baggies and was weighing it and putting it in the bag. He promised to take drug tests if she would just take him back. He has said this before. I typed the divorce papers for her and now he wants her to put in the papers that she will not have any other male over for one year. He has a warrant for his arrest and is willing to sign the papers only if she puts what he wants in them. She is so naive. She doesn't want to hurt him. He has not taken any drug test and he continues to let a drug dealer live in their house. She went over there yest. and she smelled pot. She confronted him and he said that he couldn't smell because of the cocaine he used in the past. He is also buying the kids. He is telling them what to say to their mom to upset her. The kids are so upset. The dad told them he would buy them candy if they didn't tell her about the drugs. Now he is promising them toys if they will tell their mom they want to live with him. The children are basket cases. They are misbehaving and depressed, crying most of the time. They are crying for their mom and dad. They are begging her to go back to him. He doesn't want to pay child support and he makes over 2000 a month. He has lied to her many times and she can't trust him. What should she do?  Someone suggested she turn him in to the police so if they catch him with drugs, that her children won't be taken from her. She allow liberal visitation and I am afraid he will be arrested and her kids will be taken to CPS. I suggested that she get counselling for all of them. And she did. I hate to see small children in as much pain as they are. And they are beautiful children. I can see the pain in their little eyes. Any information would be greatly appreciated.

                                                                                                pommom335

[singedwingangel]

Jan. 19, 2009 at 6:46 AM

she cna report him anonymously, especially fi she informs them of his threats and fanagling ways over her and the kids. CPS may still become involved but will become her advocate not her downfall if she is doing what she has to to get out and get her kids to safety. She may need to get the kids and go to a shelter for domestic violence until he is arrested and ensure he does not get out till she is out of reach along with the children. Be her support system, let her know that you are here for her. I will keep her and you and those babies in prayers.

[POMMOM335]

Feb. 4, 2009 at 8:40 PM

Addendum: The kids were over there this weekend and he wouldn't even feed them. He was having a party. A superbowl party. She is mad now. Now he wants custody of two of the kids. I think she should get him to sign the papers and then do what has to be done. He is really pushing it.

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