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I don't think I love my husband
- Jan 19, 2009 at 2:14 PM
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I have been married for about three months now and I can't stand the sight of my husband. I loved him when we got married but now I dread him coming home from work or being anywhere near me. I can not go on living with him. I am too unhappy with him. I feel like such a failure for wanting a divorce after only three months. But i don't know what eles i can do.
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HI SWEETHEART WHAT HAPPEN TO PUT YOU IN THIS KIND OF MOOD. IF IT IS SOMETHING YOU CAN WORK OUT , THEN YOU SHOULD LET HIM KNOW WHAT YOU NEED FROM HIM . NOW IF IT IS TRULY A MISTAKE ,YOU HAVE YOUR WORK CUT OUT FOR YOU . IT WOULD BE FAIR TO JUST WALK OUT AND LEAVE YOU NEED TO LET HIM KNOW . ONLY IF IT WOULD BE SAY FOR YOU TO DO SO , WITHOUT GETTING HURT. I WOULD LOVE TO TALK MORE TO YOU , JOIN ME .
I feel that maybe he was not really the one for me. He is really good with my daughter who is three. But he has lied about somethings from his past, which does not really matter now but he could have told upfront. Around christmas one of his ex's sent a christmas card which should be a big deal but it was what she wrote in it that was upseting to me she wrote hope married life is treating you well.which i feel was not really what she should have wrote i merry christmas would have been fine. This is also someone whom he says is crazy and wants him back. I don't know i just don't feel the same anymore.
THAT FIRST YEAR IS THE WORST, IT IS THE ADJUSTMENT OF TWO SOULS LIVING TOGETHER AND EXPOSING EACH OTHER TO WHAT THEY TRULY ARE. A DIVORCE IS NOT NECESSARILY A FAILURE, BUT I THINK YOU SHOULD AT LEAST GIVE THIS ONE A CHANCE. TALK TO HIM AND SEE WHERE IT GOES, OR MAYBE A PROFESSIONAL WOULD HELP, JUST GIVE IT YOUR ALL BEFORE YOU TERMINATE IT.
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Ya know, I hate to admit but I went through this too. The first year is the roughest....it really is. Try sticking it out. Talk to him, communicate, and maybe see a counsellor. I don't think that you don't love him, necessarily, but maybe there is an underlying cause for your frustration. My husband and I have now been married just over a year (Nov 2007) and I am so madly in love with him that I forget I ever wanted to leave him in the beginning. I hate to see a marriage fail, like you said, so I'd recommend exhausting all possible options before just giving up. (hugs)