So my son is 22 months old and i just feel like i cant control him or he doesnt listen to me. He is contantly into things and doesnt listen when i tell him to stop or get out. So when i spank him he cries for like 2 seconds and then is right back at what ever he was doig before. I jst dont know what to do with him anymore!! I feel so bad when i am happy tht its bedtime. I hate yelling at him and spanking him alll the time. I jus twant him to listen to me again. I never thought i would be one of those parents that their kids wouldnt listen to them.  It makes me want to cry when he is like that!! If anyone can help that would be GREAT!! THanks for reading this!

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Jan. 20, 2009 at 10:52 AM

Hey, I know that exact feeling but mine is 7 yrs old.  Well, evidently spanking him is working, have you tried time outs? or maybe distracting him (redirecting him to maybe help you do something).  Maybe he is bored and wants to do something.  well, he's at an age where he can help you around the house (not a hole lot but something).  Have him carry like one thing to the bathroom or bedroom or maybe to his room.  get him involved with what you are doing b/c 1) you can keep an eye on him and 2) teaches him to clean up after himself so you won't have to later on.

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Jan. 20, 2009 at 10:52 AM

It's the twos. MY son is 25 months old and he's been doing this for a while. What I've found works best for BOTH of us, is to ask him to "help" me. HE think thinks he's doing great things GROWN UP things, and I have a fairly compliant lil guy. lol. We do dishes together, if he sees trash he throws it away....ooh, we also have a giant field by our house and I let him out daily for a LOOOOOOOOOOOONG romp. He's less rambuncious when he's tired, lol.

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Jan. 20, 2009 at 11:29 AM

I understand exactly where you are coming from.  My daughter is 20 months old and in the same stage.  I think I say the word "NO" 50 times a day and yes, there are days I am very happy when she finally goes to bed.  Not only is she not listening, but over the past 2 weeks, she has learned how to throw temper tantrums, screaming at the top of her lungs and thrashing about on the floor.  I have found that spanking is ineffective with her and only use it if she is doing something that will possibly harm her or someone else.

Here's what I have found that works for us:  First I tell her "no" and redirect her to another activity.  If she throws a tantrum or attempts to do it again, I tell her "no" and explain as simple as possible why she can't do that as I make her sit in the time-out chair for at least a minute.  If she is still throwing a fit, I put her in her crib until she calms down.  By now, all I have to say is "Do you want to go lay down in your crib?" and she will straighten up.  I don't know if this would work in your situation, but I thought I would share what has worked for us.  Good luck and take a few deep breaths.  Thank goodness these are just stages they go through and eventually, with the right parental steps, it will come to an end. 

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