I have never been exposed to addiction until now.  What is this monster and how does it happen?  How does it happen that drugs suddenly mean more than her 3 beautiful children and wonderful husband?  It has ravaged her mind and soul.  She fights to get back to herself only to be scared she will fall again.  The Dr's whom you are to trust fall under the spell of addiction, only to feed her hunger for drugs......  She has gone through 6 weeks of inpatient rehab and is attending outpatient.  She says she is not ready to go home to the responsibility of being a wife and mother.  I want so badly to be supportive but, I don't understand.  I have never been addicted to anything in my life, so I don't understand the hold that addiction can have over one's life.  It is hard for me to understand why her children aren't enough to keep her clean.....Why isn't  her husband enough?  I can only hope that my love and support will help her on her journey to sobriety and keep her whole.  I hope with everything in me that there will be no relapse, even though the odds are not in her favor.  It is not for me to take all this on to my plate, she must help herself but, I will support and love her, just as I have in the past......

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Jan. 21, 2009 at 10:40 PM

wow imsorry for her and im sorry for her fmaily but addiction is really hard to del with on both sides and if you tell her what you just posted here it will make her feel worse she knows she did wrong she know what shes lossing but the more she betsherself up or puts herself down the worse off she is it will cause anothe relape she need help but most people wont be ablr to help her it take pacionts distance sopport but not getting pulled into her bs understading and she has to treat herself like a child and not be hard onerself the hardeer her sopport network is on her the worse it is for all but thats not to say she dosnt need guildence and rule

good lucj best wishes

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