I know I don't have it as bad as some.  There are people who have spouses in the military that are deployed.  There are single moms out there struggling to make it work for their families.  I'm lucky in many ways... but I'm so sad and lonely sometimes.  We moved to a new town in July and our first baby, RJ, was born in November.  RJ had meconium aspiration syndrome (he had his first bowl movement in the womb and aspirated it during labor), he was in the NICU for two weeks.  His lungs are still healing and he is very susceptible to RSV, colds, flu, etc., so he can't be around crowds and he can't be around other kids.  I'm finally to the point where I can't stand it, I take him to Target or other stores early in the morning just to get out of the house, but it's just me and him when we do this.

I desperately miss having friends!  I also had my family 5 minutes away or less for most of my life, so being 2 hours away is a HUGE adjustment for me.  I used to call my grandmother every other day to go shopping.  She's 75 and has muscular dystrophy, so she can't really just take off and come here whenever she wants - plus, she has to help with my sisters kids.  I worked for a family for 3 years and was very close with them and their kids, they were my surrogate children, and I haven't seen them since the beginning of November.  All in all, I'm just kind of sad.  It's even worse when RJ is fussy all day and my house is a mess and I feel trapped by it all.  I don't know if it's normal or not. 

That's all....

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Jan. 23, 2009 at 11:00 PM

I know how you feel only my family is 1500 miles away. I have lived here 4 years and only really have one friend here. I also know how it feels having your child in the NICU and not being able to have them around people. My 4th son was born 7 weeks early, he was in the NICU for 12 days before he came home. Then has to get RSV shots every month.

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Jan. 24, 2009 at 6:47 PM

I understand the feeling :) I moved here about 3 yrs ago from Calif.... I was born and raised there and have tons of friends there and family :( But I cant wait til we start walking it will be fun!!!

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