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Why do I try???
- Jan 23, 2009 at 11:36 PM
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I have this friend from my growing up years and all the way through high school. We were such close friends and often I miss her and have dreams of her. I found her on Classmates.com and emailed her. Well, let me go back quite a few years ago. I wanted her to be my maid of honor and she backed out at the last minute. Then we didn't talk for some time. Finally we started writing letters, as she no longer lived in this state. She moved back and got married. Her SIL I often run into or my family tends to run into so I get all my news regarding her through her SIL. Anyways, I wasn't invited, along with all her good high school friends, to her wedding. Apparently she married money and so it felt as if we were not good enough for her to attend a wedding. So anyways, I emailed her and received a very vague and very cold letter so I didn't write her back after that. I found out the other day that she is pregnant for her first child so I emailed her again to say congratulations. I received an email back saying thank you and that she and her husband are happy...and very coldly signed it sincerely... Why do I try??? I am obviously not good enough for her and just get my feelings hurt everytime I write her...so why??? Why do I do it??? I am no longer going to write her. I hope and pray that she realizes whats important in life and for a girl who grew up Christian, this is not Christian-like behavior. I NEVER thought she would become a snob. Funny thing is that my husband and I do very well...so she really doesn't need to snub me. My hubby retired as an officer from the Marine Corps and we have dined with Generals....but who are we??? I am sad, very sad, to say that I am not going to try anymore. I have even thought of deleting her from my address book, knowing it would be hard to find her again. Hmmm....
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Almost the same thing happens to me. All of the friends I had in high school, even after that, I no longer talk to. And I make every effort to still be their friends. It's frustrating and painful when they don't do the same. Sorry she's acting like that towards you, but it doesn't sound like you're the only one if she didn't invite any of your other old friends to the wedding!
It's the thought that we were so close...like sisters...and now she acts like she is better than me. I never thought she would be like that. Oh well...I need to let go.
I want everyone to like me. If, they don't.......I can't stand it ! You are NOT in the wrong. She is caught up in her snobby life. She might come around.
If, she doesn't, she sure is a dumb ass. Because you ROCK !!
Awww...thank you... I'm not going to try anymore. I just hope my dreams of being inferior to her go away.
Some people as they get older tend to lose sight of what is important...ie close friends and family. It is a real shame because she is the one losing out on a friend to talk to.
My best friend ( you know the one that you can tell your most intimate details to and you know it will never go any further than the two of you) passed away 4 years ago from lung cancer. I have really struggled since she passed...True friends do not come along all the time in our lives.
Perhaps you should write her a letter from the heart and tell her of your hurt feelings. Maybe she has a hang up from the past and is having a rough time trying to talk to you about it? If you were really good friends she may not realize how cold she has become? It is worth a shot. Then if she still responds in the same cold manner at least you know that you tried everything you could and the problem really is hers. Then you can say bye bye without carrying and baggage yourself....Nan
This is a very good idea. I will have to think about it because it would be very emotional for me to do. I can understand wanting to forget parts of my past and sometimes, in order to do that, one has to get rid of all their pasts...if that make sense. Anyways, I realized that God controls the world and he gave me a past for a reason...and it's not for me to decide to forget it and get rid of it. It's just not possible. Soooo...who knows. I just might email her.
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I'm sorry this keeps happening to you. I also miss my high school friends and dream about them- but guess what? They have moved on and no longer speak to me either except through quick exchanges- I think I always hope that things will go back to the way they were when we were in high school- but they never will. I together with you need to start to let go of the idea of friends staying the same from high school. It is hard I know. PM me if you ever want to chat- I'm always looking on facebook to chat with people from high school because I'm SAHM and don't have any friends. So I try to talk to them and they ignore me for the most part. What I'm trying to say is HUGS_____ I understand.
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