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Really, this is so annoying... uggh between husband and baby I so need a vacation!
- Jan 26, 2009 at 1:15 AM
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Ok. I am really frustrated and I know that it's these crazy pregnancy hormones that are making me feel as pissed off as I do right now.
Let's start with the baby. Last night she woke up every hour and 45 min. I am not kidding. We did have a late night last night, because she napped late, but still.. I am the ONLY one who gets up.. so after 6 hours of broken sleep I finally just get out of bed to her crying and whining because the gate's in her way, only to have her pass out on the couch for 3 hours.. but of course I can't fall back to sleep. : / Tonight is proving to be similar even though she went to bed by 9:30. So far she has woken up twice. :( Help me, seriously... Alex doesn't do anything, partially because she wont calm down for him and partially because he's a lazy ass who just never gets out of bed when I do.
Then there is my husband who just pissed me off tonight. I mean, he really made me mad. Here's the problem: moving here has kind of put us behind a bit. We weren't as prepared as we thought for the move. We had some saved, but not enough. We were told that temp lodging was around 15 dollars a night, it was 50.. plus all the deposits for electricity, water, our house, etc. So while it's not an excuse, we did get a bit behind and have been playing catch up. To top it off, Alex buys a truck when we get here. Because we had one car and he was gone 15-17 hours a day, or even overnight, and with me and the toddler and being pregnant he didn't like me not having a ride anywhere, etc. So that's an extra 255 dollars a month out of our pay. : / Not the smartest decision, but he's always been a bit of an impulse buyer.. which drives me nuts.
So here we are, slowly catching up and now it's tax time. Yay. We are going to have enough coming in to pay off any debt, and to put a bunch in the bank. I want to use some of it to get baby supplies we need, such as a place for the baby to sleep and cloth diapers, etc. I want to get my birth supplies, or at least start to get them. All we need wont deplete the savings either, but is NECESSARY.
Guess what he wants to do. Buy a fucking motorcycle. Seriously! He got all hurt and pathetic tonight when I told him why don't we just put it aside and save and see what we can do because I don't want us to have trouble and not have some cushion.. he's like "we'll see". Well what the fuck?
I know that I don't work for the money, but he gets as much as he does back in taxes because I am a dependant AND I did work last year. : / The thing is *I* haven't even been able to get maternity clothes because there are more important things for me to do, such as pay bills and get groceries and buy diapers, etc. But he's bought himself plenty of shit, such as the expansion to World of Warcraft and the damn truck... and beer and cigarettes. : / I swear, I want a bad habit so I have an excuse to spend money sometimes.
I love the man to death but this shit annoys me to no end. You know what I mean? I bet he wont get the motorcycle, but he acts like he's entitled to it.. which I don't think is fair... I put a lot of time and effort into this family and just because I have an income doesn't mean I don't deserve to have a say in where our money goes. :( Sometimes I think he feels this way.
Uggh.. I know I just sound bitchy but I seriously needed to vent. It does make me feel better lol.
Comments:
Hey you're in the cranky pregnant lady club too!! Mines a pain in the ass too. And OMG World of Warcraft! I play too, but havent been lately. So he seems to think it's okay to spend every friggin night on teh game.
I want to save money and shit for this baby, and NOOO he wants to take a vacation to go visit his mom when I am like 7 months pregnant in May. Wtf? Seriously. I dont want to travel then! Nope, he doesnt care. He doesn't even want to consider going AFTER this one is born so we don't have to make two 1500 mile trips. >:(
UGH
Just go kick him. I want to kick mine daily. Stupid men. Yours doesnt need a motorcycle! Mine wants one too but he's not allowed to have one till the car is paid off. So now he whines anytime he has a bonus check about how he "never gets anything". The last BIG bonus check was to put laminate flooring in our house. Apparently that was mine only and not his.
UGH. I'll kick mine just because you'res is being a butthole too.
I can see your hubby getting a truck for work . Trucks are useful in many ways. But a motorcycle? I think it's time to tell darling hubby that play time is over. Hope my reply don't upset you. But that is what I would tell my man ( if I had one) and was pregnant plus had a toddler too.
I would tell him that he can have a motorcycle AFTER the kids are in high school. AND NOT BEFORE. He is of an age where he'd more likely than not be not as careful as a FATHER should be on a motorcycle. If I remember right, he was as intent on having a second child as you were, if not more. So now it's time to start ACTING like a father and not a little boy. Tell him that he has a FAMILY now and the needs of the FAMILY have to come before his whiney-a$$ little toys (or big toys) AND he better figure out how to calm Becka in the night because YOU are carrying his second child and YOU need your rest to cook the baby. Yes, Patrick has a harder time calmoing RP, but he decided to make an effort to figure it out so I could have a BREAK once in a while. And I'm not even PREGNANT.
But then I know you know I'm gonna tell it to you straight and that I have NO pity for Alex when he's acting like a little boy who pouts because he's not getting what he wanted. If you'd like, RP and I can come out for a few days some week in the not-so-distant future and I can teach Alex how to treat his beautiful wife and daughter...
Damn!! I thought you were talking about my husband for a second lol. He's the same exact way... spends money like it's nothing, doesn't get up with Blake, buys stupid shit for himself. I mean I don't expect him to get up with Blake when he has to work the next day but I would like to be able to sleep in on the weekends. Sometimes men are just to much work lol. They never see it as us trying to help out money situation or make things better for our lives, they see it as us not letting them have any fun. Hopefully he'll realize that what your saying makes sense and push the whole motorcycle idea to the side for awhile. I say we should have a girls day one day and leave the kiddies with them and let them see what we go through for a day. Knowing our luck though the kids would be good as gold for them lol. If you ever need someone to talk or vent to you know where to find me : )
thanks you guys!
if he decides to get a bike, I am selling his truck lol. I will tell him that.
Becky, we need to get together! I'll have to drive in to town one day!
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