Tough Fix

[redlily08]

I am frustrated.

I have been needing more sleep and so I've been both sleeping in and napping during the day. During which, a sort of "blockade" seperates the front of our home from the back. There's nothing particularly dangerous in the back, I'd be alerted to most situations before becoming beyond control. The front on the other hand, there's two computers set up, storage that can't be "locked", the kitchen gate is broke, etc. So it's important that if I can't be watching Moonflower (because I'm sleeping), that she is unable to get to the front.

The barrier worked for a little while, but she is getting stronger and her only mental "shortcoming" is that she doesn't have the experience I do. I can only guess that she thinks the rules only apply when someone is looking. We're very consistant with what we do, but obviously if I'm less than consious, I can't enforce. So she's gotten it into her head, despite me telling her to leave the barrier alone, that it's okay for her to actually move it when nobody else is around or paying attention. Thankfully she's healthy, nothing truly horrendous has happened but...

I woke up this morning and she had gotten into my sugar container (in the kitchen). I am thankful that it was the sugar only. I'll need to vacuum, but higher priority is that it's all around her mouth. I could have woken up to a sick daughter and she refuses to understand that. Yes, I tell her that certain things can make her feel sick, she has experienced being sick not too long ago, but either being sick isn't so bad for her or she refuses to believe me. Hard telling with a toddler that is still working on saying words, clearly is another matter.

I'm just getting stuck on this. Moonflower is finally using the toilet, even sometimes without the training ring, so I don't want to revert back to diapers and lock her in her room. On the other hand, there's no simple way to blockade the hall. The reason the hall is so skinny is because there's a bathroom on one side and not aligned with the bathroom, but a little further is a closet (which she can't access but I need to occasionally). So anything I use as a barrier has to be freestanding, and apparently heavy. Perhaps the full width of the hall too (I was using a filled and closed bin plus a filled and closed box, not a single item).

I don't know. Even if being pregnant wasn't driving my energy down, I still have to sleep sometime and I'm not a robot that can sense the second she becomes alert and pop myself out of bed.

It just seems no matter how I do it, placing her in the corner, telling her simply why something is not good, or even getting her butt, she refuses to accept the root "no" that is being placed.

[medicmomof2]

Jan. 29, 2009 at 1:45 AM

Grow the fuck up! if you can't stay awake to take care of the kid you have, don't have more!

[JDmommyJD]

Jan. 29, 2009 at 2:57 AM

I cannot fathom the idea of even for one second thinking about locking a 2 year old daughter in her bedroom so the mother could sleep! And especially if doing so would completely screw up her potty training experience. Are you joking? Please say you are joking! Do you have any idea what could happen to a two year old on her own? You are seriously lucky all she found was sugar and not some type of cleaner! You need to hire a sitter, go to bed earlier and find a way to keep your ass awake! Or - keep your legs closed!

[adoramydear]

Jan. 29, 2009 at 3:57 AM

What is wrong with you! YOU NEVER LEAVE A TODDLER ALONE! She is going to mess with a baracade because that is what toddlers do.Grow up and hire a sitter. I hope some one slaps some sense into you before something happens to your daughter. there is no excuse for putting a child at risk.

[smull1]

Jan. 29, 2009 at 10:44 AM

I'm pregnant in September also and I just want to say that this journal disgusts me. Everything the previous posters said is right. IF you can't take care of your child then why do you keep having them? I understand the exhaustion but your main priority as a parent is the safety of your child and not your own comfort. Hire somebody or at least nap on the couch where you are more likely to hear when something goes wrong. I feel sorry that your daughter is so lacking in attention. Be thankful that she only got into sugar and put on your big girl panties and watch your daughter like you are supposed to. This is disgusting and what would happen if somebody called CPS on your ass? You obviously can't take care of your daughter appropriately.

[medicmomof2]

Jan. 29, 2009 at 1:51 PM

I could have woken up to a sick daughter and she refuses to understand that. Yes, I tell her that certain things can make her feel sick, she has experienced being sick not too long ago, but either being sick isn't so bad for her or she refuses to believe me. Hard telling with a toddler that is still working on saying words, clearly is another matter.

You don't deserve her. How in the hell do you expect her to understand that!?!?!? I can't believe you even stay awake to have sex to create more kids. "Being sick isn't so bad for her" Are you kidding me? How could you say that about your daughter? Put the heroine down! Let me guess. You expect her to bathe herself, dress herself and get her own food too. Oh, does she have a job yet?