Ok to make a really long story short, I just found out someone turned me in for supposedly hitting both of my kids.  I have never been one for spankings because I do know how easy that line can be to cross at times.  But who ever turned me in said they knew I was slapping both of them.  My boys are 5 years and 4 months old.  Besides the fact of my oldest is a hyper boy, I've never wanted to hit him. And hitting an infant would never solve anything anyways.  With him, I put him in a safe place and walk away for a few minutes if I have to.  They told me to quit work for the next 3 months, go through all kinds of classes and evaluations, and now on top of all of that, they tried to say we (me and daycare) were starving my youngest because "he's too small for his age".

It took a little work but I got them off my case for that.  He's growing at his own pace and usually eats like a horse no matter what.  I just kinda wish I knew who said all of this because it's ridiculous and so not true. Why do some people feel like they need to cause conflict where there was none to begin with?  It's so frustrating!

Update-

Now this is going into court for the second time- I also found out why they are so fanatical about everything this time.  My oldest( he's 5) said that I slap him a lot.  It's all so frustrating! I know he's lying, but I'm not allowed to talk to him about it. To make matters worse, the judge that is on this case seemed like she's on a personal vendetta with this.  I have never felt like women couldn't do anything, but she had me so mad when she almost took them right away.  Her own little personal addition to all of this was that neither of them could get a single bruise or mark on their bodies.  Hello?, he's a clumsy 5 year old who can trip over his own shadow.   The plus side to all this, he's being diagnosed with adhd, something we know he has. Trust me when I say, I'm not interested in drugging him for the sake of controlling him better.  He's not a bad kid, but he needs some help.  Will update again after court on tuesday.

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cbland
Feb. 5, 2009 at 12:31 AM

I hate to hear that you are going through this.  Some people think they are doing a good thing when they speak up... but I personally believe, getting the facts straight first is a good way to go lol.

I really do not know what to tell you about why some people do these things, as for your youngest son being small for his age.  Mine is too, but he was small when he was born and he is not off the charts so his pediatrician and I monitor his every inch of growth and we test him on skills.  He is doing just fine!

I hope things get better for you and I will keep you in my prayers~

 

Charlotte

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Preci...
Feb. 5, 2009 at 12:42 AM

HUgs momma.  People are just into everyone elses business.  A neighbor threatened to call the police on me because my oldest cries and screams so loud.  It totally scared me.  And I even spoke to my daughters teacher at that time.  She told me that if she says it again, to tell them to go ahead.  Or if the Police or CPS come to my house that I need to tell them that my daughter has Autism, receiving ABA therapy services and is a yeller.  And they will back off.

I am so prepared if someone calls on me. 

 

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broke...
Feb. 7, 2009 at 4:57 PM

they opened a case on me before this time saying i straved my child and she was just small for her age. cps get called for dumb reasons!!!

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