Ok. I have officially tried everything. YOu name it, I've tried it. I really do want my son to sleep in his own bed, but I can't get him to. He used to. When we lived in Mansfield he had his own room and slept in there. It wasn't until we moved to Colorado with Ruth that he started sleeping in our bed. You see whenever he would cry, Ruth would go get him and put him in bed with us instead of letting him cry it out. I get that she had to work, but if she would have ridden it out for a couple of days he would have got that his place was in his room, not ours. Now, we don't live with my mother in law any more (*cough*thank god*cough*), we have our own place and Topher bug has his own room, but refuses to sleep in it. We have tried everything, laying down with him until he falls asleep, he wakes up at 2:00am screaming and climbs in bed with us. Baby gate on the door, he scream for 45 minutes the other night, until I was in tears and went and picked him up. Favorite toys, he just brings them to our bed. Night lights, he turns them off on his way to our room. refusing to let him in our bed, he created a pallet of dirty clothes on slept on them for the night using his blanket from his bed as a cover. closing our door, he stood outside of his and cried for an hour one night until he almost hyperventalated, the next he just slept on the other side of the door. I have tried bribes, you will get a new toy if you stay in your big boy bed all night. Nope! You can have ice cream tomorrow, but you have to stay in your big boy bed all night. Nope. Corrosion... Mommy likes big boys and big boys stay in their bed all night long! Nope! He told me and I quote "I a baby." GRRRRRRRR!!!!!!! I am just tired of all the crying, all the late nights and sleepless nights for that matter. Ever since we moved into this apartment after the shoot out in front of the last one, Topher will not sleep. I don't know what to do. I moved his bed into my room. I told him to go to sleep tonight, he went in there and went to sleep right away, and so far he hasn't made a peep. The thing is, Chris and I like to practice making babies, even if we arn't if you know what I mean. I don't want my curious little two year old seeing that! But I have no idea what to do. how do I maintain a happy, healthy sex drive with a two year old in the room? And in that right, how do I maintain sanity with a two year old who won't sleep in his room? I woke up two nights ago to my son sleep walking in front of my bedroom window, screaming his head off. I have no idea what is wrong with him, only that he doesn't feel safe without mommy there. I am going crazy, and now, so is my husband. I don't know what to do. I need help, but what kind of help do you give a two year old that sleep walks, hyperventilates, and is clingy to mommy. I know some of you might say I am over reacting, but I'm not. I just want to make sure my son is fine, and in the same respect, that my sex life with my husband stays normal. Sex is big for me. I am a very sexual person, I always have been. But I just refuse to have sex with my 2 year old in the room. I know my husband can't be too comfortable with it either, I mean who would be? One problem two issues, what can you do? I love being a mommy!

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Feb. 8, 2009 at 3:27 AM

Well. I have five kids, and I have never been successful with that, but you know what eventually they do sleep in their own bed. Is he the only child. It may be a little easier with me with the others to keep each other company. My two year old sleeps with her sisters but if she wakes up at night she finds me, and I end up sleeping on the coach with her. On the initimate time with your husband. What we do, is make sure we have alone time when we know that are going to be asleep for awhile, we usually time it in between wakeups. But that is going to cause a problem if you keep that up. Continue to say no. But I would stress too much, YOu are going to have to be creative.

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Feb. 8, 2009 at 2:09 PM

Levi just got over a phase of coming into our bed everynight. We just let him stay for a few minutes then moved him back. You're right it got old and we didn't sleep alot for 2 weeks, but now he doesn't really come in anymore.  I have heard it's all repetition. Everytime let him know you love him, but move him back to his bed everytime. He's must be going through a needy phase. So just keep reaasuring him you are there and keep moving him back. Heaven knows I know that non sleeping children is a real test of being Mom, but I cling to the fact  I can't get LESS sleep, So it has to get better.. right? ;)

Hopefully he'll allow you private time with the hubby soon!


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