Parents Should Lovingly Correct a Child’s Actions

[calmbreeze]

"When a child needs correction, you might ask yourself, ‘What can I say or do that would persuade him or her to choose a better way?' When giving necessary correction, do it quietly, privately, lovingly, and not publicly. If a rebuke is required, show an increase of love promptly so that seeds of resentment may not remain. To be persuasive, your love must be sincere and your teachings based on divine doctrine and correct principles."

Russell M. Nelson, 

[McGregor]

Feb. 9, 2009 at 5:12 PM

  I have made a vow to not spank in my kids anymore...and today I had trouble.  I didn't know how to get the one boy to behave the way he should have.  I just felt so lost, and almost like giving up the spanking vow..I didn't, because I know it wasn't working.  So thank you for posting at a vulnerable time for me.  It helped me reclaim some of the calm that I need to hand out when I am teaching discipline to my kids.  I needed reassurance today, especially like the statement above.  I believe in all that, but I needed it put into words, and it helped to keep me convinced that I am doing better as a mom without spanking and yelling.  I think this might be the first journal that's actually helped me with something that has troubled me as a mother since I signed on to CAfemom back in September.  Again, thank you.

[MemawBrie]

Feb. 9, 2009 at 5:20 PM

This is great advice.  Children would respond so much better if parents would heed this.  The Bible instructs fathers not to provoke their children to the point of frustration.  It also says the anger of man does not accomplish the righteousness of God.  We want to train our children by example, not bully them into submission.  I think many adults either don't realize or accept that children deserve respect too.  We should be about breaking their will, not their spirit.  I think spanking has its place, but ONLY in cases where willful, blatant disobedience is demonstrated.  Even then, it should be done in love, not in anger or out of frustration.  Great journal!

[calmbreeze]

Feb. 9, 2009 at 5:35 PM

McGregor your very welcome. I have the same problem. It wasn't until last night that I was instructed by the Holy Spirt to write out some important things that not only my children should and can listen too and do but myself can do as well. I wrote it out all in red the first letter of each of the 3 words in Bold Capitol letters so we all can see and I read it to them and explained on an level I know that my oldest at the most can understand. My oldest daughter after we did that and were all settling down for our naps today reminded me not to yell (when I was yelling at my youngest daughter) and I thanked her for reminding me and gave her an big kiss and hug. It's so much our responsibility to take care of each other. I love my children and am so ashamed of myself on how I have treated them over the years they've been on this Earth already. They are precious gifts of love sent from the Godhead to me and I made an vow to protect them and I wasn't showing them at all that I cared at all. When deep down I do. I am so thankful to be able to have the Godhead to go to and ask how to solve an problem that I can't do at all by myself in. I truly believe that if most people would do this they would see immediate improvements in themselves and their actions. I also plan on continuing my journal writing. I haven't privately journal wrote in my own journal since last year. I did it last night and I more than just felt so much better. I realized afterwards that a huge weight was lifted off me. I slept for the first time in a long time really good. Went to bed real late but still slept really well. I know everything will all turn out real well in the long run I just have to keep trying. It's imperative for everyone. Not just for me. Thanks again and I will pray and hope things continue to work well with you. And keep up the good work. Don't forget to pray to your heavenly family they will help you in any and all problems. 

                              Much Love,

                              Elizabeth 

(Original Poster)