trying to stay to keep my head above water

[peachez21527]

It seems as if everytime I try to stay positive in my life something or someone always brings me down. I am trying to be the best mom I can be but it is so very hard to balance work, kids, and just life in general. I have been seperated from my kids father for close to a year now. We were a couple for 12years and no marriage. Don't get me wrong he proposed but it was right before we broke up so I really was not ready to settle down with him for life. He has since moved on and is getting married and to be honest I could not be more happy for him. I hold no ill feelings towards him at all. We have been through too much with one another. The break up was a rocky one but it worked out in the end. I always look at things as if they happen for a reason. We are not with one another for a reason and I am not sure what that is but hey there is a reason. The girls love his fiance and I could not ask for nothing more.  As for me the dating scene has been crazy. I mean are some of these men out here really serious with they way the approach women. I have been on dates where I have just up and left the dinner table and left the man there looking stupid. I heard a quote yesterday and it stated if you keep looking for the meaning of happiness you will never find it. You just have to let happiness come to you and when you do you will know then that you are truly happy. I have also learned to not a person be my priority when all I am to them is an option. That was a big lesson I had to learn and I learned that one the hard way. I try to teach my girls the same thing. Life is too short to waste on the what if's, and searching for happiness. You just have to enjoy it day by day and everything will fall into place.

[ariannacruzsmom]

Feb. 11, 2009 at 2:56 PM

This was very meaningful to me because i've been through something similar. My daughters father & I had been  together for awhile and when it was over I was questioning what's next?! Well...I was single for awhile and just stopped dating because all the men I was meeting had their own agenda. Then after a few years of going solo I met a great guy. I'm Latina and as soon as my family learned he was Caucasian, it was an uproar. But when they realized he was the man who made both me and my daughters happy they embraced him with open arms. After my daughters father I never thought I'd find someone who understood me. Now my ex and I are good friends and live three buildings away from one another. It's still hard for him to see me happy but after 9 years of being with my new guy, they respect each other, sit by each other at my daughters basketball games and learn to get along for her sake. Don't worry...once you stop stressing about things they fall into place. I'm here if you need me!