WTF today at playgroup

[heydooney]

We started going to this new playgroup the 1st and 3rd Monday of every month at the church in the gym at the same time they open the doors for people to come and walk. So the kids play in the center, and the (mostly old) people walk around the perimeter. Kalten and I went four weeks ago for the first time, then we missed the next one because Coen was only two days old, and we went back today.

I came in and set Coen's bucket down. I started to get him out, and this older lady came up and asked how old he was. I told her, and she started to come around to where she could see him better. Then she goes, "oh, you're one of those mothers who believes in the pacifier," like it was the worst thing in the world. I was a little flabbergasted that she'd be that judgmental to someone she's never met, so I said something dumb like, "we didn't want to give him one..." and she shoots back, "well why did you?" At that point, though, the playgroup leader had come over to talk to me, and Old Ms. BetterThanYou walked away. If I had been thinking, I would have said, "oh, and you're one of those old bats who think that how I raise my children is their business."

I don't like him to use the pacifier, and he won't even take it a lot of the time. Maybe it's been centuries since she had young, perky boobs so she doesn't realize that mine don't hang to my knees like hers do, and I can't just toss one over my shoulder to the back seat to comfort him while I'm driving. Sorry that I prefer he has something to suck on instead of screaming his head off. It's a bit of silicone, not a bottle of whiskey. It's not going to hurt him. I never would have tried it if nursing wasn't already going really well, but I'm almost constantly being sucked on between him and Kalten, and sometimes I need some sanity time. Plus, K won't go to sleep easily if I'm tandem nursing him and Coen because he wants to pat and poke the baby. When Co has the paci and the crocheted blankie he can wrap his little fingers up in, he's happy as a clam to sit in the swing and watch whatever's going on in the room for a few minutes while I get Big Brother to sleep. It works for us.

Not that I need to justify myself to her or anyone, but it makes me mad that no matter what other choices I've made, I'm automatically "one of those mothers" just because I stuck a paci in my kid's mouth so he wouldn't be sad on the way to playgroup.

[MrsBirks]

Feb. 16, 2009 at 3:12 PM

I have had sooooo many people say to my little boy 'take that dirty dummy out of your mouth'!!! grrrrr it makes me sooo mad!  whether i choose to give him it or not, its my personal choice and people should not try to make me feel like a bad mum because of this.  Both my kids had them and its not done any harm at all!! You do what you want to do and ignore all those 'old women who don't mind their own business' xxxx

[rockerchic]

Feb. 16, 2009 at 4:07 PM

What is SO AMAZING to me...

Is that people have these opinions that this is right and this is wrong... breast feed, bottle feed, paci, no paci....

WHATEVER!

 

Their still gonna grow up and get A's and D's on their report cards.  Need to Borrow the Car, and have friends you don't like.

 

What Stinkin' difference does it make?  And what business was it of ol'saggy tit blue hair anyway?

 

I live in the country and ALOT of people are like that around here... it is amazing to me how people think that their opinion actually makes half a rats butthole to you ... you know?

 

Anyway... Old people are starting to grate me lately... Sorry..

And sorry yo had to deal with ol'Holierthanthou