Devastating Diagnosis

[rojastarr]

I know that life is hardly fair and that I have been truly blessed until this moment. Today our family learned that my 25 year old stepson has bone cancer. Everyone is numb....Here is a beautiful, gentle young man getting ready for his wedding on May 2 nd and to be given such a blow. It is too early to know the extent of the cancer, or prognosis. Tomorrow they will tell us what type the cancer is and that will give  more answers. He will go to the University of Michigan to see the oncologists there on Friday. Right now we can only hold onto hope and aggressively fight this unwelcome invader. I know his mother is feeling untold pain at this moment. My husband is so afraid. My heart just dropped when he asked in a soft voice "What is the life expectancy for this". Unfortunately I was unable to give him any answers. Without the path report and knowing exactly what type of cancer it is...(they are just saying they think it is a very rare type) and how advanced etc it is...no one can give those answers. All I could do is to tell him that I love him and we will be there to help his son thru this. I am not an oncology nurse and this is so outside my ken. I know there can be a wide variety of outcomes...there are so many variables. The fact that he is young, relatively healthy and has a good support group going for him are all things in his favor. Well, I just had to vent somewhere. Now I have to be strong so that I can be a support for my husband and his son. I think this years may be a terribly difficult one in ways I never could have imagined. I thank all of my cafemom friends for being there when things have gotten difficult. 

Update: 4/6/09

Aaron has had 2 Chemo treatments and the cancer seems to be responding well. His pain is gone and he can now lift the affected arm over his head. They feel that the bone is starting to regenerate. He had an allergic reaction on his first treatment and they dose him up with Benadryl now when he receives them. He has lost all of his beautiful hair and that has been hard for him but he is handling it very well. He has postponed the wedding until this fall so that he is over all the chemo and radiation. We continue to be very optimistic.

[julylady58]

Feb. 18, 2009 at 10:48 PM

I am so sorry for your news.  I will be praying for this young man.  God bless.

[ISAIAHMOM632007]

Feb. 18, 2009 at 10:50 PM

prayers for you and your family God Bless

[BrisMom]

Feb. 18, 2009 at 10:50 PM

Prayers for all of you. I don't know whatelse to say.

[Janellybelly]

Feb. 18, 2009 at 10:51 PM

WOW...thank you for sharing your heart with us.  I will be praying for him as well.  Stay strong!  >HUGS<

[Kimi258]

Feb. 18, 2009 at 11:03 PM

[LadySaphira]

Feb. 18, 2009 at 11:33 PM

I am so sorry your family has to go through this, especially at a time that should be filled with happiness and excitement. Lots of positive energy, good juju, and prayers being sent for all of you!

[rojastarr]

Feb. 19, 2009 at 7:57 PM

Well, I do have an update on my stepson's diagnosis. The have diagnosed him with Diffuse Large Cell Lymphoma - a NonHodgkins Lymphoma. They are calling it stage 1 so it is early and localized to the clavical. He has a 6 mm tumor. These are treatable with Chemo and Radiation. This is some positive news. It does not mean that he is out of the woods but that he does have hope. We now have a direction. Thank you all for your support.

(Original Poster)

[honeydewchic]

Apr. 11, 2009 at 5:00 AM

I am glad he is doing better. So sorry this happened. love you, Dew