23 Marriages and Counting

[NovemberLove]

When I was about 15 years old, I was asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding of a friend of mine's grandmother.  I was flattered because I hardly knew the woman and thought I must have made some impression on her the few times we had met previously.  Lo and behold, I think I was just a placeholder to make the wedding pictures look like a nice traditional wedding seeing as this was her 7th or 8th wedding.  I don't think it was about the details anymore, just getting down the aisle and tying the knot.  It seemed to me that some of the other family members were in disagreement with her marrying so frequently that they weren't attending.  The gentleman marrying "Granny" had all of his family in the same boat.  They were in high protest of him marrying a woman whose 6-7 previous husbands had all died (yup, all deaths, no divorces).  I always thought she was running for a world record or something. 

I discovered that she was no where near the record when I happened upon an article where "the most married woman in the world" has been married 23 times and "the most married man in the world" was married 29 times (he is now deceased).  One of their marriages was actually to each other as a publicity stunt.  What do you think?  Do you think that this behavior devalues the sanctity of marriage or does it do no harm to themselves or society?  This got me thinking; how many times would I re-marry before enough was enough?  After all, isn't divorce and/or death a lot of hardship to go through?  How much long term wealth can you built up for yourself if you're constantly dividing it in two every couple of years?  In the case of divorce, it gets divided in two.  In the case of death, the children get the belongings that were promised to them and the spouse pays the heafty fees that come along with burying a loved one.  Either way, it's expensive and heartbreaking.

What about you?  Do you have a "marriage number?"  I'm hoping to keep mine at "1" lol.

Photo of NovemberLove's wedding by Ed Snyder.

Signed,

Amanda

Thanks for reading:  My name is Amanda.  I'm a 23 year old SAHM recently leaving my job in Social Work to take care of my son.  I love writing and photography and plan on incorporating both into my journal posts.  I'd love it if you came back to read more.  Feel free to befriend me :-)

[MiMiBreezy]

Feb. 25, 2009 at 9:34 PM

well...i will be 23 in april and I've already been married and divorced twice. I learned my lesson and I'm waiting on a divine intervention before I go down that road again.  Problem is my Babys Father has expressed to me that he wants to marry me. Not going to rush into anything though.