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UPDATE on my last post.
- Feb 19, 2009 at 10:58 PM
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If you didn't read my last journal entry, please do so...this one is an update. (http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/1400210/WTH_Can_t_I_just_stay_home_Sorry_so_long)
Thanks for all your support and kinds words and suggestions. It means so much to have you all on my side.
Okay...so Doug came home and I told him the whole horrible story (I had sent him the emails to his work so he had seen those already). He said I did great and he would call her and tell her we had not changed our minds.
He calls her and right away she starts the drama stuff with him, actually crying and everything. He reiterates to her the same things I was telling her...it's not personal, Mitchell is just not experienced, blah, blah, blah....
She just keeps crying and going on and on with the same stuff she said to me about how it's only two hours and we have phones, how horrible she thinks we are being, etc.
Doug finally tells her to knock it off...that there is no reason to be so damn dramatic! (LMBO)!
She finally ends with telling him she'll just tell Lynda that we want to bring the kids with us, but she is clearly unhappy still.
A bit later I get the following email from her:
"I will never ever arrange for a babsitter for you again. I'm sorry I did it this time and it will never happen again. You have my word.
Mom"
First of all, WHO ASKED HER??? We said from day one we'd like to bring the kids with us. It was her who wanted it to be just adults. We said okay as long as we could find a good babysitter and she insisted that she would take care of it. Unfortunately, she waited until yesterday to even make an effort.
I am livid at this point. Clearly she just had to take one more dig at me...just one more bit of nastiness. I tell Doug and he says if that's how she wants to be then let her and just let it go. At first I thought maybe he's right but then I said 'no way.'
I told him, "You have been telling me for 7 years to stand up to her and now that I am finally doing it I am not going to lay down. If I let this go now then she wins...at least in her mind."
So he told me to go for it and say whatever I needed to and he'd support me. So I wrote the following reply:
"There will not be a problem tomorrow night. I will call One Trick Pony (the Restaurant) and tell them that there will be 11 of us for dinner instead of the 9 I had originally said.
We'll see the 4 of you there and we'll have a good time."
I told Doug that me writing her back gave her two choices; 1. continue being nasty and causing trouble OR 2. knock it off.
Looks like she made the right choice! LOL
And looks like I made the right choice by not backing down and standing up for myself. Maybe she'll even think twice about doing this to me in the future now. Unlikely but hey, I can be proud of myself on this one! And just maybe I won't be so nervous to stand up to her next time.
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VERY good!!! I think you (again) did the right thing!! I love that you said what you had to say in a concise and polite manner -- but, still got your point across and let her know "no more." And, I am glad your DH stood by you, sweet. It's tough when "Mom" is involved, I think. But, it sounds like she got the message and yes...hopefully there will be no more "issues" from her! I hope you all have a GREAT time and it's all good!! Way to go!!!
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