too many feelings

[jmdivine]

Things seem to be going ok. Certain things are falling into place for me.  But, I still feel lonely and hurt.  I finally spoke with Steven, but there are so many things that seem to be blocking us.  The main is Andrew.  Both Steven and I are btwn a rock and a wall.  On one end, his son. On the other our daughter and our relationship.  Right now, we both feel like the losers. The only winner in all of this turmoil is Andrew.  He finally has what he wanted. Steven all to himself.  And the thing is, it's understandable.  For Andrew, if he can't have his parents together, then having Steven to himself is the next best thing.  But what about Steven, me and Zamiya?  Steven and I deserve to be able to have a relationship together.  Zamiya deserves to have her daddy with her everyday too.  The only solutions are: Andrew returning to stay with his Mom or Steven and I waiting until Andrew is  18.  But, both of those solutions are not very feasible.  If Andrew were to return to his mother, I'd worry that Steven would begin to resent me.  But at the same time, I don't feel it is fair for Steven, me & Zamiya having to wait for us.

[angellady535]

Feb. 20, 2009 at 12:31 PM

 MAYBE I NEED TO READ THIS AGAIN . ARE STEVE MARRIED . AND IT SOUND LIKE ANOTHER WOMAN IS  IN HIS LIFE . IF SO YOU PROBABLY SHOULD LEAVE YOUR HEART OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP . THEIR'S A REASOME WHY IT'S IMPORTANT FOR HIM TO SPEND TIME WITH HIS SON . I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD TRY TO PUSH WHAT YOU WANT IT SOUND LIKE YOU SHOULDN'T . LOVE TO HAVE YOU AS A FRIEND .

[divinity80921]

Feb. 20, 2009 at 7:54 PM

Knowing a bit more than angellady535 knows, I respectfully disagree. Steven needs to decide who is in charge of the home - his son or him. If it's the son, so be it and my advice to you is to get on with your life, girly. You are a beautiful young woman and there are lots of fish in the sea. When you go fishing and you pull up a snapping turtle, you get out your pocket knife and you cut that line and let that snapper go free. No parent does his child any favor by letting the child rule the household. If Steven is willing to let the child rule, RUN AWAY FROM THAT. You don't want to live that way.

If it's going to be Steven who is in control, then he needs to set his son straight and set boundaries and limits, then get you and your beautiful baby back where you both belong - with him.

[TiffanyLove18]

Feb. 21, 2009 at 2:14 AM

I don't think that's the case. It seems like OP is in a relationship with Steven. Steven has a son from a past relationship (ex wife, ex girlfriend)

Andrew, Steven's son does not like the fact that there is someone else in his territory (The OP) and also doesn't like the fact that his mom and Steven are not together. Therefore this is causing some issues.

I think divinity80921 is absolutely right. It would be what I would have told you.