It hurts so bad

[baconbits]

 I'm not sure where I'm going with this but things just hurt so bad. It looks as if they are going to try and take my grandson from me. Everytime I just think that things are going to look up and get a bit of something positive they knock me back down again. I don't understand how they can terminate a fathers rights then give them back and not let us know until it's basically a done deal. How can they give my grandson to a man who used to physically abuse my daughter when she was pregnant and afterwards as well. He had even thrown my grandson and stated he wasn't his son and wanted nothing to do with him. I'm hurting and I just don't know where to go with all of this. Get a lawyer, get a P. I. yea right. Does anyone know how much they cost? Lots of money that we dont have right now but if need be I will mortgage our home to the hilt in order to do what I need to in order to keep our grandson.

[jennylynn22003]

Mar. 9, 2009 at 7:50 PM

I am so sorry to hear this!! This is terrible!! Can nothing else be done? Why can't he stay with you?

[love2snorkel70]

Mar. 9, 2009 at 10:52 PM

I am shocked!  Why does the system seem to fail so many good people?  Please dig deep, find your strength and fight for your rights!

[thomasfam14]

Mar. 9, 2009 at 11:27 PM

I feel your pain! I am currently going through something like this and I know how that hurts. I had my children taken from me last year because of my daughter's father saying that I was unfit. Luckily they stayed with my dad and I could see them whenever I wanted, but for her dad, who had taken a UA and failed..at the next hearing, they gave him more time for his visits. Its VERY unfair that they do this to good people. I had to jump through hoops just to get my kids back, since they never should have been taken in the first place...I hope you find a way to keep him with you. There is nothing more important than someone who loves you unconditionally. Be strong.

[doodlebopfan]

Mar. 11, 2009 at 12:31 AM

I am speechless. I would petition the court, call the media, call the retired caseworker, there has got to be something that you can do. I am still praying for you (answered your post the other day) been kinda watching for an update, something saying that it wasn't true after all....I can't imagine what you are going thru! You said this was in a couple of months, right? Maybe something will happen in the mean time. Hold that little boy tight every day, I know you are. Let us know if things change. Does your daughter still see your grandson? Are they planning on transitioning him at all? Visitations? Surely they don't expect to uproot this baby to suddenly live with a man he's not met?  

[jbirchard]

Mar. 18, 2009 at 8:51 PM

awe. what a wonderful system we have . my thoughts will be with you and your family.